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ARCHIVED DAILY MESSAGES
FROM DR. STANDLEY
OCTOBER 2008

www.drstandleylive.com

[Posted 11:30 AM EDT - Thursday morning, 10/30/2008]

PERSONAL RESPONBILITY

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, It's Not Easy To Be Me

Waking up to the Bonanza Theme Song as my musical DLG (Download from God) was a bit strange to say the least. I giggle just thinking about it. Waking up this morning was definitely out of the ordinary because I was tired when I woke up. Being tired when I wake up is highly unusual for me because when I wake up, I'm wide-awake right now. Not in a few minutes, but BOOM! right now. There is no yawning, no rolling over, no stretching, no gimme-ten-more-minutes. What can I say, it's a gift. But this morning, I was t-i-r-e-d.

Last night I went out with friends and stayed out way too late. Then I stayed up even later watching an 'instant play' B-movie on my computer from Netflix. I just didn't want to go to sleep. Oh I can be just like a little kid who just refuses to go to sleep even when they're tired. That's exactly how I was last night. Well this morning when that Bonanza musical DLG popped off in my head I made a quick connection with my mom. I rolled over and twisted through my luscious billowing converter and burrowed my face into a bajillion fat fluffy pillows but the music kept getting louder until I started tapping my foot to it. This was nuts! I started laughing and then I could hear my mom lightly say, "Loretta, it's time to get up."

My siblings and I never had a bed time but by golly we had better get our 'rumpelstiltkin' up in the morning and not complain about it. My parents have always been about personal responsibility. We could stay up as long as we wanted as long as we got up the next morning and weren't late. Instead of waking up to loud obnoxious alarm clocks, our parents woke us up. Mom wasn't about to come into our room several times to try and get us up. That's almost laughable to think about because she just flat out wouldn't do it. That's just not her style and we didn't dare test her system. She came into the room once and that was it. We were six kids raised with 'the look' or 'the tone of voice' and not a heavy hand. If we didn't get up, which was a rare occurrence, then it would fall on personal responsibility and we would have to pay the consequences.

My mom has a very nice mom-voice. She just has this great mom-voice and when she would open our bedroom door she would gently and I mean gently say, "It's time to get up." It could have almost been classified as a loving whisper. And she would only come in and say it once. No kidding! My dad on the other hand would burst into the room and say, "Wake up buttercup, rise and shine! It's time to get up!" And then he'd started hugging and kissing us as we fought ourselves away from his loving arms. Waking up as a child was never a loud, obnoxious, hurried or chaotic experience. We just didn't start our day like that. My siblings and I always woke up to a great mom-voice or a silly and theatrical dad-voice. Awe! And to this day we all wake up in a great mood and we're ready to rumble. I knew that I was being called to task, not only by my Father (God) with the musical DLG but by my mom as well when I heard her voice. Geez, it's like they tag-teamed and ganged up on me. Look at me go, trying to point my finger at them when it's really just my own personal responsibility for staying out and staying up too dang late.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 3:40 PM EDT - Monday afternoon, 10/27/2008]

IT'S NOT EASY TO BE ME

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Entertaining Past Lives

My musical DLG (Download from God) this morning caused me to crack a crooked little smile that had a hint of reckless abandon in it. The song I heard was, "It's Not Easy To Be Me" by Five For Fighting. I may have even raised one eyebrow as I laid there listening to this song and thinking about all of the crazy antics I do in order to chase down myself. As I've so often written to you, I'm fascinated by me. Not in a self-absorbed or narcissistic fascination but in a mesmerized wonderment sort of way. It would be easy for anyone to listen to this song and say, "It's not easy to be me because of all the struggles I've been through." Certainly, we've all been through our share of struggles. Some people don't talk about them and others can't talk enough about them. Some people simply pick up and move on from a struggle and others can't seem to do anything but have more struggle.

What's up with the struggle?
Why do people dig on that stuff?
Dr. Loretta Standley~

When I hear this song it makes me think of how I have to practice every single day living my Natal Chart. I've been practicing being me for over 47 years now and I'm still doing it. It's not like I'm going to be anyone else so why not make me better. (winky wink) No matter what, there I am again tomorrow and it won't stop until God calls my name and then I leave the planet. It's quite comical when you think about it. I know that I'm supposed to be focused on my North Node Virgo, which rules healthcare, fitness, work ethic and daily routine. I know I'm supposed to be doing all things Virgo, which is developing those strict daily routines. I know I'm supposed to bring order to the chaos. I know I'm supposed to be categorizing, straighten-up, filing and analyzing. I know all of that and sometimes I still act like a slippery little fish (South Node Pisces) and pop right out of someone's hand once they 'think' they've caught me and figured me out. Just when I get a routine on this website, I start throwing wrenches in the cogwheels and get off track again and I pop right out of your hand and swim away. I know, I know folks! I know how I am. Then I have to get back to the Nodes (the North and South Node) and try it all over again. Hey, it's not easy to be me but I was the only one on the planet gifted with the job to do it. Just like you were gifted with the job to be you. I happen to enjoy my job because I make it (me) work for me. :)

Lighten your load and ease up on the self-inflicted misery folks. How about becoming more fascinated with yourself simply because of the fact that there will never be anyone else like you. You're it, the real deal, so why not shape you the way you want and that feels Good to you? I've already lived unconsciously miserable and now I know what it looks like. That is not something I have to repeat. I get it! Why not become as mesmerized with yourself as you would when you fall in Love with Mr. or Miss Wonderful? Why not squeeze every last ounce of juice out of yourself?

While it may not be easy to be me, I'm not trying to be someone else and that in itself makes being me . . EASY! Okay, so I'll probably throw wrenches in the cogwheels again, but I'm going to have as much fun as I can while trying to figure it all out! I'm going to twist, turn and shake me the whole journey just to see what falls out. That could be a new idea, a new project, a new Love or a new adventure. Who knows? I'm always looking for the special things inside of me that I didn't know or realize were there. Since I'm it, the only Loretta ME, then I may as well choose to enjoy me since I was the only one on the planet who was gifted to do it right. That could be a little scary when you think of the bigness of it all. You are in your hands with all the responsibility of impacting and influencing others. It may not be easy but it sure is big, especially since you were the only one hand chosen by God to do it.


YouTube wouldn't allow this video to be embedded, so you will need to click the link below to watch the video. I have created the link so that my page remains behind it so you can read the words as you listen to the song. Now go play yourself UP and practice being you.

IT'S NOT EASY TO BE ME
by Five For Fighting
Click here to watch the video on YouTube

I can't stand to fly
I'm not that naive
I'm just out to find
The better part of me

I'm more than a bird: I'm more than a plane
I'm more than some pretty face beside a train
It's not easy to be me

Wish that I could cry
Fall upon my knees
Find a way to lie
About a home I'll never see

It may sound absurd: but don't be naive
Even heroes have the right to bleed
I may be disturbed: but won't you conceed
Even heroes have the right to dream
It's not easy to be me

Up, up and away: away from me
Well it's all right: You can all sleep sound tonight
I'm not crazy: or anything:

I can't stand to fly
I'm not that naive
Men weren't meant to ride
With clouds between their knees

I'm only a man in a silly red sheet
Digging for kryptonite on this one way street
Only a man in a funny red sheet
Looking for special things inside of me
Inside of me
Inside of me
Inside of me
Inside of me

I'm only a man in a funny red sheet
I'm only a man looking for a dream

I'm only a man in a funny red sheet
And it's not easy

It's not easy to be me.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 11:00 PM EDT - Wednesday night, 10/22/2008]

ENTERTAINING PAST LIVES

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Can We Still Be Friends?

Are you ready for a Daily Message that is really out there? I may lose a few people off my mailing list over this one but oh well, I feel compelled to share this with you regardless of the consequences. I suppose I'll live through any losses but I believe the majority of you will get it. After all, you came to this site because you felt a connection with me. You found me, I didn't find you and now we are us, which is pretty dang cool. So bear with me while explain a bit about past lives by using me as an example.

My musical DLG (Download from God) this morning was, "Cool Change" by the Little River Band, otherwise known as LRB. I Love this song so much because it reminds me so much me and the freedom that I enjoy just being me. As you listen to the song below you'll hear this massive appreciation for being alone and experiencing life and the elements on a deep personal level. I use the word 'deep' on purpose because the Ocean is deep and I happen to have a South Node in Pisces and Pisces rules the depths of the Ocean. It is our South Node that describes our past life. The South Node is not what we focus on in this Life but use to our advantage in this Life. We have experience in this area (South Node) and we all know that we should use our experience and knowledge to get us to the place that we were purposed to be. The past (South Node) is not something you have to re-learn, you are already innately know it. You don't focus on the South Node, you use it to do your North Node. My North Node is in Virgo, which rules healthcare. So here I am, being me and doing what I do. Incidentally, your North and South Node are ALWAYS the exact opposite signs. Ah . . the balanced algebraic equation rides again. (winky wink)

As I have no doubt shared with you on many occasions, I do enjoy my own company and I have no problem spending time alone. I guess someone like me would have to be more than okay with solitude because my work requires me to be alone in the quiet 'depths' of my mind. Everything I do radiates from the hidden realm and when you think about it, no one ever really sees me. My website, e-Course, book, health consultations and readings all radiate from behind closed doors. Even my Tsalagi Bath Salts are about being in the quiet, water, behind closed doors. And guess what sign rules baths? You got, Pisces! So I use these baths to facilitate Good health. Guess who helped me pick out the packaging, label and colors. My dad, who is a Pisces! My solitude is directly linked to my South Node Pisces simply because Pisces rules the 12th house of the hidden realm, solitude and confinement.

My South Node Pisces is telling of a person who spent a lot of time alone in a past life in the hidden realm, which is probably why I am so comfortable in a state of aloneness. I believe this to have been in some sort of monastary, convent or temple. It's interesting that I have a curiosity around cloistered nuns and I frequent a convent of cloistered nuns to pray and I go to what we Catholics call, "Eucharistic Adoration". I'm as attracted to these type of religious reflective things as a moth is to a lightbulb. The reason why I say this is because my South Node Pisces sits in the 9th house of the higher-thinking mind, religion, intuition, philosophy, prophecy, churches, cultural learning, the journey along the path, akashic records and so much more. There is a reason why someone like me digs on religion and gets so much inspiration from being alone with it. It's my food, but that's just me.

I've also told you before that I don't read other spiritual writers work. And I do consider myself a spiritual writer. Not only do I feel that reading their work may find its way into my writing by shear osmosis or accident but it would mess with the purity of intent of my writing. I believe that most of us 'spiritual type' writers are saying the same thing, just saying it differently. The other reason I don't read other spiritual writers work is because I feel as if I have already been there and done that. It feels like old news to me. It's a sense that I have simply because of my South Node Pisces in the 9th. I feel like I know this spiritual stuff, which is probably why I am so relaxed about mixing astrology with religion. Not only does my South Node in Pisces sit in the 9th house, my Sun in Gemini (communication) shines in the 12th house of the hidden realm which is naturally ruled by Pisces. Therefore, everything I do is communicating from the hidden realm on a deep spiritual level. Folks, this past life stuff really isn't that difficult to figure out and I'm here to tell you that it's okay to be you.

As a side note, going into your past lives and piecing together all of that puzzlement quite honestly requires a reading because it's too much information to volley back and forth through e-mail. Thanks in advance for understanding.

It's interesting how someone who has the direct opposite nodes as me will have a strong desire to chase down every book written by the latest spiritual guru. They'll go to workshops and lectures and become spiritual junkies. You see, the North Node Pisces people need to do that but I don't . . . I've already been there and done that. Since I have a North Node Virgo, I need to focus on the health of the human body and use my knowledge of the South Node in Pisces to help heal the body both spiritually and physically. Having a South Node in Pisces also makes me keenly aware of other people's suffering because Pisces rules the 12th house of silent suffering. I know when a person is suffering. I can feel it. I also know what's its like to suffer because I have suffered in a past life. I don't have to suffer now. Been there, done that.

I've never been romantic
And sometimes I don't care
I know it may sound selfish
But let me breathe the air, yeah
Let me breathe the air

With my South Node in Pisces there is just an acute awareness to the spiritual side of life. I can't think differently. I can't look at things so physically world-ish. I don't think like that. It's who I am. I know this physical world is very short-lived. I just get it; therefore, I don't worry about things as other people do because it's all so temporary. The paragraph above from the song resonates 'deeply' with me as well. I wouldn't call myself a hopeless romantic in the same way others may refer to it in relationships, although I do consider myself a deeply romantic person. My romance is actually spiritual romance. I find 'deep' conversation romantic. I find reflecting on God 'deeply' romantic. Flowers, candy and Valentine's Day don't do squat for me. Quite frankly, I see it as nothing but ridiculous. Romance to me is a 'deep' question mark about what's after this . . what's in the next minute? In the next life? What do I need to do now to make a better person then.

I see the video below with spiritually romantic eyes watching the whales and dolphins enjoy their place in the world. Just as I enjoy my place in the world, riding through the streets of St. Louis on my bicycle with my granny basket packed and my Harry Potter glasses on, which by the way are just frames with no glass in them. Liz gave them to me and they are just too irresistible not to enjoy wearing. She knew I'd wear them because that's just how I roll. (winky wink)

In closing, I had a wonderful spiritually romantic moment with my 5 year old grandson "Big Tree" this past Sunday afternoon. We went to the park and as I laid on the blanket on my belly looking closely at blades of grass, he was sitting in the tree next to me on a low hanging branch counting leaves. (Imagine that!) The next thing I knew he was sitting on the sidewalk in Siddhasana posture, which is a basic seated yoga posture. You may recognize it as "Indian style". He was facing directly toward the Sun as it was going down, and was holding his hands in a hand mudra, which is touching his index finger and thumb together. I said, "What are you doing?" He said, "Be quiet, I'm meditating." Then he started saying, "Ohmmmm.....Ohmmmmmm." Now I do yoga everyday and I know he hasn't seen me do this because that is a posture I use for meditating and I've never meditated in front of him. He invited me to sit next to him, so I did. As people rode by on their bikes, walked or ran past they couldn't help but notice him and smile. It was THE MOST darling thing I have ever seen. I asked, "Where did you learn to do that?" He said, "Discovery Channel, the monks do it when they want to think."

If there's one thing that should not be missing from your Life,
it's the time that you spend alone.
Dr. Loretta Standley~

COOL CHANGE
by The Little River Band

If there's one thing in my life that's missing
It's the time that I spend alone
Sailing on the cool and bright clear water
Lots of those friendly people
And they're showing me ways to go
And I never want to lose their inspiration

Time for a cool change
I know that it's time for a cool change
And now that my life is so prearranged
I know that it's time for a cool change

Well, I was born in the sign of water
And it's there that I feel my best
The albatross and the whales they are my brothers
It's kind of a special feeling
When you're out on the sea alone
Staring at the full moon, like a lover

Time for a cool change
I know that it's time for a cool change
Now that my life is so prearranged
I know that it's time for a cool change

I've never been romantic
And sometimes I don't care
I know it may sound selfish
But let me breathe the air, yeah
Let me breathe the air

[Instrumental Interlude]

If there's one thing in my life that's missing
It's the time that I spend alone
Sailing on the cool and bright clear water
It's kind of a special feeling
When you're out on the sea alone
Staring at the full moon, like a lover

Time for a cool change
I know that it's time for a cool change
Now that my life is so prearranged
I know that it's hard for a cool
Cool, cool change

It's time, it's time, it's time
It's time, it's time, it's time
For a cool, cool change
Oooooh, I know it's time for a cool
Cool, cool change
Now that my life is so prearranged
Well, I know, I know, I know, I know
That it's time for a cool change
Yes it is, yes it is, yes it is, yes it is
It's Time for a cool change

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 11:00 AM EDT - Tuesday morning, 10/21/2008]

CAN WE STILL BE FRIENDS?

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Date Night

This morning my musical DLG (Download from God) was Todd Rundgren's, "Can We Still Be Friends" which immediately reminded me of all my wonderful friendships. I'm very blessed when it comes to friends. I'm tellin' you folks, I hit the jackpot on friends! Most of you are familiar with my friends who I mention fairly often. I'll admit, I'm not the easiest person to become friends with because I can be very reserved and cautious with people I don't know. Especially if I don't know their birth date. (winky wink) I need to be sure that no matter how strained our relationship becomes, we still have each other's back and our secrets are still safe.

One day in my late-20's I was driving down the highway with a girlfriend in the backseat and my boyfriend in the front passenger's seat. She and I were in a seriously heated discussion when she did it. She really did it. She crossed the line that friends don't cross. She blurted out one of my secrets. When she said it, he and I turned and looked at each other in horror and shock! I was horrified and he was shocked. But in that moment of horror (me), shock (him) and silence (her), my boyfriend and I read each other's mind and I knew exactly what to do. I put on my blinker and immediately took the next exit off the highway and pulled into a gas station. When I stopped the car, without saying a word he calmly got out of the car and opened the back door, then I said to her, "Get out!"

You see folks, my boyfriend was a Leo and there is one thing you don't do to a Leo and that is be disloyal to them. And they certainly don't like to see anyone be disloyal to someone they Love. Have you ever seen a lion protect its cubs? Even in the heat of an argument, loyalties have to remain intact with a Leo. What she didn't know is that I had already shared this information with him. She thought she was telling him something he didn't know. Her blurt wasn't a news flash but her disloyalty during an argument certainly was. I happen to have the strongest Mars placement in my Natal Chart which is Mars in Leo. This explains why there is a loyalty test rolling through my mind before I ever buddy up close to anyone. I went on to spend 12 years with that man and will continue to have his back until the day I turn to light and leave the planet. Further, I would do the same for both of my former husbands or any other former relationship whether that it was romantic or friendship. I would still have their back even after finding it hard to co-exist with one other. If there is one thing I am, that is loyal. That's just how I roll.

This Todd Rundgren song really reminds me of all my friends in state and out-of-state. It reminds me of all the joy, happiness, sorrow, heartbreak, laughter, tears, disappointment, giggling, camraderie, forgiveness, hurt feelings, embarrassment, snickering, practical joking, arguments, innocent ridicule, acceptance, sarcasm, tolerance and understanding that I have with all my friends. The video below is from the movie, "Dumb and Dumber" with Jim Carrey and Jeff Daniels. The goofiest parts of this movie actually do remind me of my friends and some of our shinanigans. It also reminds me of the tough times we had to go through to get to where we are now but in the end (just like the video) it's us standing there together. No matter what, it's us. That's where our loyalty rests. Take it from me folks because I have learned the hard way. In order to have one friend, you have to be a Good friend. And to have as many friends as I do, I must be doing something right. Here's to all my friends! Big Fat Love to you all.

CAN WE STILL BE FRIENDS?
by Todd Rundgren

But can we still be friends
Things just can't go on like before
But can we still be friends
We had something to learn
Now its time for the wheel to turn
Grains of sand, one by one
Before you know it, all gone

Lets admit we made a mistake
But can we still be friends
Heartbreaks never easy to take
But can we still be friends
It's a strange, sad affair
Sometimes seems like we just don't care
Don't waste time feeling hurt
We've been through hell together

Can we still get together sometime
You know life will still go on and on and on

We awoke from our dream
Things are not always what they seem
Memories linger on
It's like a sweet, sad old song

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 11:20 AM EDT - Friday morning, 10/17/2008]

DATE NIGHT

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Enjoy The Show

This morning I was having a hilarious conversation with a former boyfriend. We like to catch up on 'election thoughts' since we think the exact same way and enjoy political banter. In this way we can rant and rave, say whatever we want and completely unload on each other without the other person disagreeing. Then we morphed into less serious but still comical truths about one another.

He started poking fun after I said why I was at my daughter's house. Every Thursday night Karmen and Larry (her husband) have 'date night.' They are on a bowling league and this serves as their weekly 'date night'. So every Thursday afternoon I pick up my grandson Big Tree from school, then we have our 'date night'. We go out to eat, go to an arcade, shop or anything else that might be fun. Last night we went shopping and bought more playing cards for our card container. Big Tree and I enjoying playing cards and we have all kinds of decks. We have Old Maid, Crazy 8's, Slap Jack and Go Fish. And I'm so competitive that I don't let him win just because he's five. Needless to say he has become quite a card player. We also enjoy buying different kinds of decks so we can play Memory aka Concentration. We have Biblical decks, sporting decks, movie decks and animal decks. Cards is just our thing. I've also been teaching him how to play Chess since he's already mastered Checkers and beats me most of the time. ooooh, I just want to turn the board over and mess everything up!

I've always believed in 'date night'. In fact, since Karmen was under five years old, we always had a 'date night' until she graduated from High School. Once a week we would go out to eat, go to a movie, the arcade, etc. It was always during the week and never on the weekend simply because her time was split going to her daddy's house or to one of her grandparent's house on the opposing weekend. Sometimes Karmen and I wouldn't go out at all and we would stay home, order a pizza, play board games and make a big tent in the living room and sleep there that night. Date night was ALWAYS on Tuesday, even when I was in college for eight years I always scheduled my classes so that Tuesday night was open. Maybe one semester we had to switch to Thursday night, but there was nothing more important in my Life than 'date night' with my daughter. Now, I have 'date night' with Big Tree and Karmen has 'date night' with her husband.

The reason why my former boyfriend was making fun of me about date night was because I just couldn't stick to 'date night' with him. He had this strict Wednesday/Saturday routine schedule that I just couldn't handle. I understand how married couples need to schedule a routine 'date night' but not two single people. If I want routine, then I'll get married. I also understand why it is vital to spend 'routine undivided attention date night' with children. As the months passed I found myself throwing wrenches. Meaning, I would throw a wrench in his schedule and he would say, "It's date night!" His strict schedule was not mine at all and this was clearly not going to work. As much as we made each other laugh and as goofed up as we behaved together, the routine schedule proved to be too much for me. It still makes me cringe thinking about. (No offense pal. winky wink) I can see my friend "H" (Henrietta) laugh while reading this because she knows how I can throw wrenches and shake up a schedule.

Even when scheduling readings or health consultations I prefer last minute, spontaneous scheduling. That's the reason why I can be ready in usually 20 minutes or less because I typically won't schedule anything unless someone else needs to and they really want a specific time. Otherwise, I'm ready to rumble. I do understand that my spontaneity is not everyone else's but as a severely spontaneous person it is easier for me to accommodate someone else's schedule than it is for someone to accommodate mine. I get it!

Before hanging up we had a wonderful moment to appreciate what we learned from one another and how we remained true to ourselves and didn't force something that would have made the other uncomfortable. He still has his 'date night' under his own terms and I still have my 'date night' under my own terms. Ah . . all's well it end's well.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 10:50 AM EDT - Thursday morning, 10/16/2008]

ENJOY THE SHOW

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Literally En'light'end

I absolutely LOVE this mornings musical DLG (Download from God). I mean I LOVE IT! This morning I woke up hearing The Show by Lenka and the video link below reminds me so much of me and how I CHOOSE to live my Life moment by moment. Youtube would not allow this video to be embedded so you will have to click the link.

I'm a firm believer in that I cannot do it alone, whatever it is, even if it is as simple as brushing my teeth, I cannot do it alone. Maybe others can live their Life alone but I cannot. I can't, I've tried and I don't want to do it again. Folks, I'm referring to God, Spirit, the Father, the Universe whatever you want to call The Energy. All I know is that I can't do it alone without Him. I voluntarily choose to give up control and be directed, much like a puppet, in order to do my purpose or mission in Life that He gave me to do. Geez, that makes Life so much easier. And if you read yesterday's Daily Message then you know I'm all about easily and effortlessly now!

I just Love this song and it's a song that rolls over and over again on my iPod. I can listen to this song 25 times in a row and it's just not enough. I can see myself riding my bike with groceries in my old lady basket not caring if anyone hears me singing THIS SONG on my iPod or not. Whatever, I just don't give a rat! I can see myself in the park, in the restaurant, on public transportation, riding my bike and feeling so small, like a little girl and trusting every moment of the way, even if I'm scared that's it's all going to be okay. My only option is to trust. The comfort in that is just out of this world amazing!

The whining, the complaining, the nagging and annoying approach that some people will choose to live their Life just boggles my mind. This Life of ours was Graced to us by God. It is is gift from God and when someone has the attitude of wanting their money back for this wonderful show that we were Graced to experience, then it deserves some reflection, not to mention an attitude adjustment. Hmmmmmm, how would you feel if you gave a gift to someone and they wanted their money back. Their money back? Heck, they didn't even have to pay for it and they want their money back?!?! Now imagine how God must feel.

When you click the link my webpage will remain so that you can still read the words to the song below and sing along. The peace that she feels at the end of this video, when she clicks and tunes everyone else out and goes to sleep is EXACTLY how I go to sleep every single night. Enjoy the show!

The Show by Lenka

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

Slow it down
Make it stop
Or else my heart is going to pop
'Cause it's too much
Yeah, it's a lot
To be something I'm not

I'm a fool
Out of love
'Cause I just can't get enough

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I'm just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show

The sun is hot
In the sky
Just like a giant spotlight
The people follow the sign
And synchronize in time
It's a joke
Nobody knows
They've got a ticket to that show
Yeah

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I dont know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I'm just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show

Just enjoy the show

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I dont know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I'm just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show

dum de dum
dudum de dum

Just enjoy the show

dum de dum
dudum de dum

Just enjoy the show

I want my money back
I want my money back
I want my money back
Just enjoy the show

I want my money back
I want my money back
I want my money back
Just enjoy the show

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 11:10 AM EDT - Wednesday morning, 10/15/2008]

LITERALLY EN'LIGHT'ENED

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, What Do You Have To Hide?

I don't know if anyone is more happy than me to see Mercury turn direct today at 3:59 PM EDT. I had all of these wonderful plans for the site during Mercury Retrograde and even set myself ahead of time to work on the old projects but my attention kept getting pulled in an entirely different direction . . so I went with it.

I have had many conversations with my sister Ahinawake (Gemini) and my brother Sam (Gemini) on how we just don't push anything that is hard. If it's hard, then we back off because we just don't believe that Life is supposed to work that way. Enjoying a challenge is another story because challenges are for our own Goodness but pushing a square peg through triangular hole is ridiculous and not worth our time and energy. The three of us just won't do it. It's interesting how both my brother, sister and myself think this way because we are all three Gemini's. We Gemini's do not like to do anything hard. It just isn't going to happen that way. We are all about simplicity, ease, effortlessness and the basics. Point A to Point B and whatever is THE MOST logical and rational outcome is our M.O. (modus operandi). It's so easy to figure us out because we'll choose simple every dang time. Gemini rules the logical and rational mind, we want to know how that clocks ticks so we take it apart and put it back together again in the exact way we took it apart and say, "Oh, cool. That was easy." This is completely different from our squaring sign Virgo who will analyze every part of the clock with a fine tooth comb thereby taking longer and maybe even procrastinating in putting it back together again.

Well during Mercury Retrograde, right out the gate my communication and travel plans were thrwarted. Instead of whining, crying and complaining about it, I just backed off and accepted it. I simply said, "Okay, then I'll go in that direction." As you may remember I had some program issues that actually set me pedaling backward with Mercury Retrograde. I had planned to go to Cherokee, NC to see my family but last minute Granny duty changed all of that when Larry (my son-in-law) had to go out of town unexpectedly. It was the craziest Mercury Retrograde I have ever had. Now I know that retrogradation is merely an illusion. I know that no planet ever really travels backward but the feeling is very real which is similar to sitting at a stop light and the car next to you rolls backward making you jump and say, "Whoa!" and push on the brake even harder. Yeah, retrograde motion is just like that.

This actually turned out to be THE BEST Mercury Retrograde I have ever had. I took my hands off the wheel and 'simply' gave in to the process of simplicity, more than I do already. Instead of stressing over the websites and whether or not things were accomplished or posted in a certain timeline, I realized that my own personal timeline was the most important. So I started clearing, cleaning and straightening up my own act on a personal level. My space looks even more glamorous, luxurious and elegant that it ever did and I just Love it. I do enjoy fancy schmancy! I hung new drapes, re-arranged furniture and changed to more 'white' and 'bright' eco-friendly lightbulbs. I've always had the eco-friendly lightbulbs even back in the days when I had my clinic but I wanted the powerful 'whiteness' instead of any semblance of 'yellowness'. I want to see clearly and brilliantly. There is a huge difference. Now it looks like a spaceship landed in my place. I mean it's as bright as an operating room. I looked in the mirror and said, "So that's what you really look like." Next thing ya' know there I was stripping down to what my mama gave me because I wanted to see more of the simple truth. It seemed I was ready to see everything, even the naked truth about me. I don't just mean this physically, I actually mean this more metaphorically.

I'm just sayin' folks, whatever it takes to get you to the place you need to be, then okay. For some reason, it took nearly every single day of Mercury Retrograde before I was en'light'ened, not just on a physical level but on an emotional level and spiritual level as well. This morning I woke hearing Carrie Underwoods, "Jesus Take The Wheel" as my musical DLG (Download from God). This song reminds me how simplicistic life really is and how if you can give up the need to control and give it to a Higher Power (God), everything in Life runs so much smoother and easier. Notice how the people in this video go from heartbreak and despair to joy and Love merely by giving up control.

JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL
by Carrie Underwood

She was driving last Friday on her way to Cincinnati
On a snow white Christmas Eve
Going home to see her Mama and her Daddy with the baby in the backseat
Fifty miles to go and she was running low on faith and gasoline
It'd been a long hard year
She had a lot on her mind and she didn't pay attention
she was going way too fast
Before she knew it she was spinning on a thin black sheet of glass
She saw both their lives flash before her eyes
She didn't even have time to cry
She was sooo scared
She threw her hands up in the air

Jesus take the wheel
Take it from my hands
Cause I can't do this on my own
I'm letting go
So give me one more chance
Save me from this road I'm on
Jesus take the wheel

It was still getting colder when she made it to the shoulder
And the car came to a stop
She cried when she saw that baby in the backseat sleeping like a rock
And for the first time in a long time
She bowed her head to pray
She said I'm sorry for the way
I've been living my life
I know I've got to change
So from now on tonight

Jesus take the wheel
Take it from my hands
Cause I can't do this on my own
I'm letting go
So give me one more chance
Save me from this road I'm on

Ooh, Jesus take the wheel
Ooh, I'm letting go
So give me one more chance
Save me from this road I'm on
From this road I'm on
Jesus take the wheel
Ooh, take it, take it from me
Ooh ooh wah ah ooh ooh ooh

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 11:10 AM EDT - Monday morning, 10/13/2008]

WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO HIDE?

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Humor Me

A couple of years ago we had a couple of severe ice storms here in St. Louis. It was so bad that the weight of the ice on the trees fell on the power lines and knocked out service for tens of thousands of people. On my block we were the lucky ones because back in the spring we had a thunderstorm that was so bad that it blew the trees down which landed on the powerlines and we were without power for a week. This happened several times that spring and in the summer as well. I even wrote a Daily Message about that called, Learned How To See in the Dark.

I remember exactly where I was and what I was doing when the power went out during that ice storm. I was a lector (reader) at the daily noon Mass. Yep, believe it or not, I'm a Catholic and I do enjoy daily Mass. It shocks some people considering the work that I do, but oh well. I won't lose any sleep if anyone has a problem with it. Some people feel scarred for Life over being Catholic but I happen to Love being Catholic. Further, I hide nothing from those at church including the priests what I do for a living and they are well aware that my work does involve horoscopes. Basically, I have a 'live with it' attitude because I'm out to impress God, not anyone else. Well, my church is only one block away from my house and my most immediate thought when the lights went out was that I was going to be without power as well. When the lights went out, I stopped reading and just stood there while the priest and the seminarian lit candles next to me so I could finish reading the scripture.

After Mass I walked home and was relieved to find that I had power. Then it dawned on me that during the spring and summer the trees on my block had been cut back so our block had power, while the other blocks didn't. Then I thought about the priests over at the rectory. The Bishop and Monsignor live there and they are no spring chickens (if you know what I mean). I called my friend Julie (Libra) up the street and told her that the rectory and church were without power and asked if I offered my space to the Bishop or Monsignor if I could stay with her. Being that I live only a block away from church it was the perfect temporary housing for either of them because when it comes to Mass, lights on or lights off, Mass will take place as scheduled.

When I asked Julie if I could stay with her she said, "Of course you can. Is there anything you need to hide before they come over?" We laughed so hard when she said that because both the Bishop and Monsignor know Julie and I fairly well and just shake their head at our wacky sense of humor. Typically it is the Monsignor who always looks at me, shakes his head back and forth as he trys to keep from laughing and says, "Loretta!" Well to make a simple story even more simple, my answer to Julie was, "No." I didn't need to hide anything from anyone. What you see is pretty much it. Further, I told both the Bishop and Monsignor to make themselves comfortable and if they found any of my bills, just go ahead and pay them. (winky wink)

So my question to you is, "Do you have anything to hide?" Can anyone just stop by your place unannounced without you having to hide something? And for those of you who are single, is there anything you would need to hide from the new Mr. or Miss Wonderful? If there is, I guarantee you that you aren't ready for a new relationship if you start off having to hide something. Prepare your space to be welcoming at all times. And if you have something to hide, maybe, just maybe you need to clean that mess up! Is your space presentable or is it messy and unkept. If you are not prepared for company, then maybe you ought to be. And these last few days of Mercury Retrograde coupled with a Moon in Aries today and tomorrow is the perfect time to get your act together and stop hiding what isn't real . . necessary . . appreciated . . or used.

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 4:20 PM EDT - Thursday morning, 10/09/2008]

HUMOR ME!

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Sit It Out or Dance

I think one of the most important things in any relationship is humor. At least for me it is, but then again I have dreams of one day being a stand up comic and I think that I could do it without having to use foul language. When I get on a roll, I can be the queen of one liners and maintain a poker straight face. At one time I even owned a children's entertainment company and was a professional clown, which were some pretty big shoes to fill. (winky wink) As I have no doubt shared with you before, I also have dreams of being a comedy writer for a sit-com or writing skits for Saturday Night Live. I'm definitely a woman who can take a joke. And if given the chance, the one person I would want to have lunch with is Gary Larson, the creator of "The Far Side." His work is surrealistic humor based on logical fallacy, impending odd disasters, uncomfortable social settings, events that are not at all likely to happen and the search for the meaning of Life. My favorite Far Side cartoon is a carload of cows driving by a pasture full of farmers standing in the field. The cows yell out the windows, "Yackity Yackity Yack!"

I can't imagine being in any relationship that doesn't have humor. After all, don't we couple-up because of the way the other person makes us feel? Certainly, there are times when we couple-up with someone who doesn't make us feel Good but that's another Daily Message reserved for another time. I think funny people are probably more in touch with their emotions than anyone else. Then again, there are some funny people who can't seem to source any other emotion except funny because it covers up something else. Think about some of our greatest actors and actresses who began their career as a stand up comic and many have won or have been nominated for an Academy Award -- Jim Carrey, Tom Hanks, Robin Williams, Jack Black, Will Smith, Jamie Foxx, Bill Murray, Whoopi Goldberg, Steve Martin and Chris Rock just to name a few. Comedians make the best dramatic actors, hands down!

Folks, you can source other emotions through a healthy sense of humor. Even when times are tough, you can still go to that comedic place deep within you and find some light. Haven't you ever said, "One day we'll look back on this and laugh." Well laugh now! It's so interesting that we say that knowing there is some comedy in the moment but for some reason won't tap into it. Laughter actually has a physiologic impact on the body where it changes your brain chemistry by releasing endorphins, which are natural pain killers. It also brings more oxygen into your body because you are inhaling deeper.

I think relationships that have something missing are probably missing a sense of humor. It's easy to say a lack of passion ruins a relationship but once humor leaves, communication is next, which then impacts passion. Humor doesn't always save romance but it definitely saves the tone of a relationship. I remember one day having a conversation with my second husband in the bathroom when he picked up a bar of soap, held it up to his chin and continued talking to me. I fell out laughing because I had this huge zit on my chin that he just couldn't get passed. It was hysterical. From that day forward, whenever I had a pimple he would pick up anything he could get his hands on and hold it up to his face and mock me. I'll always be willing to make light of something in order to ease the pain or embarrassment of the situation. I'm also a person that absolutely will not go to bed angry but one day I found a reason to make an exception to my own rule. As I laid on my side building up more and more anger I heard a voice behind me whispering in an eery and ghostlike manner, "Lorreettta . . . Lorreettttttaaa. Wake uuupppp and talk to your huzzzbaaand." Now how could I be angry after that? Yep, if a man makes me laugh, then I'm in Love all over again. Just like that!

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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[Posted 9:15 AM EDT - Friday morning, 10/03/2008]

SIT IT OUT OR DANCE

AudioOsda Sunalei [Good Morning in Cherokee]

Read the last Daily Message titled, Simplicity Is So Simple

This morning my musical DLG (Download from God) was "I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack. It's interesting because this is a country tune and I probably know less than ten country songs total. Every week during the late spring, summer and early fall my friends and I go to concerts in the park. This past Tuesday night was the last outdoor concert at the Missouri History Museum with St. Louis' favorite house band called, The Bob Kuban Band. If the name Bob Kuban doesn't ring a bell, then you may remember his only hit single called, "The Cheater". This oldie hit single plays on their website if you hit the "play intro" button.

Christine and I rode our bikes there and met up with the others on the lawn who were already set up with yummy provisions. Our group has never been too shy to get up and dance at any party or venue and this time wasn't any different. As Christine, Steve (Cherie's husband) and I danced we noticed two ladies who absolutely had to be 'at least' 80 years old. There is just no way these two ladies could have been any less than 80. No way! I'm around a lot of elderly people in my parish and neighborhood so I know this has to be a fairly accurate guess. I can't remember the song that caused us to jump up and dance but it was definitely one that had rhythm and craziness. These two ladies were not just dancing, they were DANCING! Their bodies didn't move like you would think an 80 year old body would move. They had rhythm! It was clear, they had been dancing all their Life. I don't just mean this literally, but metaphorically as well.

How many times have you looked at someone older than you and said to yourself, "Gee, I hope I look like that when I'm their age" or hoped that when you reach their age that you will be that active too. There is a wonderful couple in my parish who is in their late 80's. They are both extremely active, fit and take very Good care of themselves. They travel, go to all the parties and fund-raisers and walk through the neighborhood still holding hands. This past Saturday Anna (the judge) had a party and when this couple arrived I remember someone standing next to me saying, "Wow they're hot!" They were talking about this couple. And, no kidding, they are! They are fresh, vibrant and full of life. They are just soooooo nice and everyone (young and old) wants to be around them! They didn't grow into old and bitter people. They grew into old-er, kind and friendly people. Their energy is palpable and you can almost see little caption clouds above everyone's head hoping their future looks that bright and healthy when they reach that age. Well folks, it's not about how you live your life then, it's about how you live your life now.

I HOPE YOU DANCE
by Lee Ann Womack

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat
But always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
I hope you still feel small
When you stand beside the Ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you'll give faith a fighting chance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Living might mean taking chances
But they're worth taking
Lovin' might be a mistake
But it's worth making
Don't let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out
Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a real and constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)

I hope you still feel small
When you stand beside the Ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me you'll give faith a fighting chance

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
Dance
I hope you dance
I hope you dance
(Time is a real and constant motion always)
I hope you dance
(Rolling us along)
I hope you dance
(Tell me who)
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
I hope you dance
(Where those years have gone)

(Tell me who)
I hope you dance
(Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
(Where those years have gone)

"Now get out there, go place yourself UP!
and practice being you."
-- Dr. Loretta Standley

AudioDenadagohvyu ['Until we meet again' in Cherokee]

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