Daily Messages from Dr. Standley

Personal identity is a very powerful thing because we use it to identify who we are. Sadly, it can also be disempowering if we are not content with how we came into existance. What is our story? Were we on purpose? Identity is so much more than someone calling out your name and then you responding, "That's me!" Who am I and why am I here, are the philosophical age-old questions of all time. Hmmmmmmm . . . Who am I and why am I here? This question stimulates further question marks such as . . . What is my mission in Life? What will happen to me when I die? Where did I come from? Who is my soulmate?

It is my belief that who you are, is what you own about you, right now. In other words, whatever you believe about you right now, is absolutely True 'for you' even if it is not what others believe. To put it another way . . . if you say so, then okie dokie. Which then begs the question, what matters more . . what you believe about yourself or what others believe about you? Sometimes what you own about you is not really YOU at all; it is someone else. Take for instance in yesterday's Daily Message I gave a huge example of my daughter Karmen. We are both very clear that she is she and I am me. We have two completely separate identities, goals, dreams and aspirations. My only dream for her is that she have her own dream. Neither of us live by proxy through the other in order to say, "That's me!" If I say, "That's my daughter!" or she says, "That's my mom!" the statement stops right there. It is what it is.

My biggest identity lesson in Life came when Karmen sold about 40 billion cases of Girl Scout cookies. Well, let's clarify that statement if I am going to be completely honest with you. As most parents will do when their child is fundraising, I too assisted my daughter. As a tag team, we left no stone unturned. As a reward for selling the most cookies, Karmen had won every single prize level of sales, including the cool neon telephone and huge keyboard. When the announcements came out in the bulletin at school about her Girl Scout troop's record sales, not one word was mentioned about Karmen. Not one word! Can you say, "Loretta blew a gasket!" I was out of my mind with anger. Actually, I was enraged. For them to just look over my baby without any recognition had upset me to the point of red-faced mascara dripping tears. Karmen didn't really give a rat about the public recognition, I did! This was not Karmen's childhood memory coming back to her, it was mine! My personal recognition and identity was messed with and I turned it into an unnecessary and ugly childhood memory for Karmen. Isn't that whacked!?!? I took my old unaddressed stuff and loaded it right on Karmen's back. I was living my desire for recognition and success vicariously through Karmen. This is just like the parent who drives the child religiously to every practice year after year, only to see the child come in second place, which often hurts the parent more than the child. Certainly we always want our child to be first, but I think we know what, "living vicariously through others" looks like when we see it.

As I have written to you in previous daily messages, I use to seek personal approval and recognition from others, now I do not. I built my own ballpark and now I play by my own rules. It's that freedom thing again. (winky wink) I have also realized that not everyone is going to like Ol' Loretta and it's okay because I no longer need strokes from people I don't even know to feed my identity crisis and make me feel Good about myself. That is all gone. After all, if I did not seek public recognition, then I suppose I would not have named a website after myself and gone into such a public forum with my work. Now that I have grown through this, I can comfortably be myself and use my name to get 'my work' out there, rather than use my name to get me out there. It's about my work and that is my identity. It's about my mission and that is my identity. That is who "I" say that I am. I understand that I am the channel or vessel about 'The Work.' It took me a while to understand that my mission in Life IS my identity and I get it. Now the measuring stick that I use for a job well done is my statcounter. Just like the garment size, these numbers do not lie.

Folks, the easiest way to study yourself is through your actions and reactions with other people. Then you know exactly what you need to fix in order to create your own identity. The majority of psychologist's will agree that the person we marry is the person we choose to help fix our childhood. We often marry the man who is just like our dad or the woman who is just like our mom. This is not always the case but most of the time, it is. Oh boy! Sometimes the 'identity crisis' can be worked through and sometimes it cannot and we have to disengage and work through it on our own. Remember, those in your Life are a reflection of yourself, and even more so if you are living your Life vicariously through your children, spouse or someone else. Are they your identity or will you reach out and find your own identity?

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As I always say, "Whatever you should be doing with your Life, you've been doing it your whole Life." This morning I received one of those phone calls that any parent would be happy to receive from their child. My little Leo cubbie called asking for my input and suggestions. I shot back, "Who are you and what have you done my daughter!!!" (winky wink) This phone call was particularly wonderful because it involved figuring out the puzzle and excitement of her Life. Karmen is a very theatrical, fast-talking, excited girl so listening is something that she taught me to do. You absolutely have to listen to catch all 50 million words she just said in 10 seconds flat. Believe me! She's excited about what's next, even when she has no idea what is next. I don't know where that came from. (winky wink) Karmen is also very independent and determined which is why I always call her my 'serious child,' as if I had more children. As Larry (Karmen's husband) sees it, she and I are mirror images of each other. Still in other ways, we could not be more different and therein lies the balance, which we respect about each other. She has her path, which is not my path. And my path is not her path, yet at the same time we are included in each other's path. That is just crazy when I think about how cool that is. She has her Life and I have mine, yet we are part of each others Life. Dang that is BIG and wonderful thinking.

Incidentally, I did receive permission from my little Leo cubbie to share as much information as I am sharing with you. As we were putting together the pieces of her Life so she can see further down the road, we started laying out all of the pieces to her puzzle. Since the time Karmen was little, I taught her that she does not "take" anything from Life; she is to "receive." There is absolutely NO TAKING and if there is, then just remember that I will match that attitude with "Mommy giveth and mommy taketh away." And I would do just that without a guilty bone in my body. Taking and receiving can be sensed on the very smallest level. If money is held out to you, are you receiving it or taking it. Oh you can feel it as it exchanges from one hand to the other, whether you are taking it out of the person's hand or receiving it. That is exactly why receiving your change should always be experienced with an open palm. So you can receive. Hugs and kisses are the same way.

Let's do something very cool right now. As you are sitting at your computer reading this, turn your palms up and lay them on the desk. You should be able to feel energy flow into and through your hands. It is a buzzing or vibrating feeling. Folks, you are electro-magnetic, so you should be able to feel this. If you were not electro-magnetic then you would never be able to be shocked by rubbing your foot on the carpet or electrocuted by a high voltage wire. You also would not be able to have an MRI (magnetic resonance imaging) performed. The stainless steel plus two charge of an acupuncture needle would not work. You would also not be able to have a pace-maker if your SA node (Sinoatrial Node) in your heart needed assistance, which is responsible for the electrical conductivity of your heart in order to beat. You are not plastic; you are electro-magnetic BABY! We are soooooo electro-magnetic that we can even feel that positive current when our body is pressed up against someone else and even the negative current when someone walks into a room that makes our blood boil. Merely thinking about either influence will impact your electro-magnetic field this very minute, not to mention your physiology. The result is body chemistry, such a wonderful thing. But I digress . . .

Now when figuring out your puzzle, what have you received? It's about what you received and what you felt to your core in those experiences. The buzzing! The vibration! You must take into account all of your Life; the Good, the bad and the ugly that buzzed through your electro-magnetic field. Every last drop of happiness and hurt must be part of the puzzle.

In Karmen's youth she went to two camps per summer because it was part of the give and receive package with me. She went to Swimming Camp, M.A.S.H. Camp where she went on maneuvers, First Aid Camp, Native American Camp, Gymnastics Camp and many others, including Handi-Camp where she was a Junior Counselor with the disabled. I will never forget the day I picked her up. The minute she was in the car and let down her guard, she fell apart. The lack of sleep and stress of caring for so many disabled people had taken its toll. I listened to everything she had to say and waited for a break in the action, and then said, "Do you ever think you will do something like this again?" Through the sobs and tears she said, "Yeah."

Karmen has never been much of an athlete because she always had her nose buried in a book, even on the playground. No kidding! Her studious nature started her college career early when she was barely a junior in high school, before she could even drive. After school I would drive her to the UMSL (University of Missouri St. Louis) to take her classes, which went on through her senior year. Let me be clear, this was her idea, not mine. After high school, she went out of state to college, which nearly took the wind out of my sails, so I was grateful when she returned home. I was never in a hurry for Karmen to take a traditional route of schooling. Big hairy deal! Life is an experience and should be lived comfortably on terms that make you feel Good about being you. Karmen has been all over Europe from England, France, Germany, Italy, Greece and even to edges of Turkey (Western Asia). She has also been to Mexico working with children and sea turtles where she was required to speak Spanish the entire time. She has also been to a few other islands and probably at least forty U.S. states. Karmen was even singled out in high school and featured on our local television for having served volunteer hours over and above the call of duty for the elderly.

The funniest part about her is that she has this burning desire to see every single movie that has ever been made and read every book ever written. This is about the most serious thing that I have typed about her because it really is no joke. And she retains it all! Karmen will have one book in her purse, maybe two and I guarantee you that she has a book on tape in her car this very minute.

Now the question remains, what to do with all of that well-roundedness? Folks, you are well-rounded too; it will just show up differently. My mom and I went through her Life puzzle one day and when the conversation began, she thought that all she had done in Life was raise six, silly, loud, karaoking children because she was a stay-at-home mom. Naturally I pointed out how ABSOLUTELY HUGE that is to devote to a family and everyone turned out sane. I always saw myself as a stay-at-home mom too even though I was an entrepreneur at home. Being a stay-at-home mom just showed up differently for me. I'm very traditional in the mom-sense, just like my mom. When we started laying out all of the pieces . . . there was a huge Life of experience and impact. If someone were to say to me, "Your mother wears combat boots!" I can actually say, "She sure did because my mom was in the Army." Being that the first five out of the six of us are a year apart, the regiment of the Army I'm certain assisted. My dad was also in the Army. We were not Army brats because my parents finished their enlistment before they had any children.

Add it all up folks, everything that you have received out of Life thus far. The Good, the bad and the ugly. Your Life is full of excitement and promise. There is so much more to you than meets the eye. Just as Karmen will need to tie in her not-so-great experiences to her Life puzzle, so must we all. It all counts folks! That rotten place that you may be feeling right now, it all counts in the Game of Life and it really is all Good. Naturally if you need assistance putting your Life puzzle together, that is where the consults and readings come into play. When you are ready, so am I. My crazy bio is right here, so you can see how I came together to be me to help you. Receive these Life experiences as something that will help you get to the place that you desire and need to be. Every single one of your experiences will count. They really do. Your Life experiences will feel so much better if you receive them, rather than taking them (lying down).

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If there is one thing that I cannot stand to do and that is work-out in a gym! When I say that I can't stand it, believe me! I belong to a gym and will go when the going gets rough . . . NOT! Actually it was a waste of 300 bucks and I knew it when I spent the money but did it anyway. How's that for ignoring my intuition? I would be willing to bet anyone 300 bucks that I won't do that again. I'm just not into that kind of working out and I will no longer lie to myself and act like I am. Indoor workouts do nothing for my tom-boy nature, not to mention I have this severe freedom issue (Jupiter in Aquarius) that I have to contend with on a daily basis. Remember, Jupiter is THE MOST freedom-Loving planet and Aquarius is THE MOST freedom-Loving sign. I need space! Remember, when it's the Truth, it shows up everywhere, even in my work-outs! In my younger days I even use to teach aerobics at several health clubs and I couldn't stand it . . I wanted to be outside!

I was thinking about all of this yesterday as I went on my distance walk. I really missed my distance walks this past winter (since I can't stand the cold) so needless to say, yesterday I was in 7th Heaven in near 80 degree weather. A distance walk to me is anywhere between 5 and 8 miles. I absolutely Love being alone with my thoughts, smiling and just seeing distance in front of me. All of that . . out there . . ahead of me . . and so much ground to cover. What a fantabulous metaphor? So, can I do it? Will I do it?

My dad nick-named me "Rabbit" when I was a little girl because I could run faster than anyone else. Have you ever caught a rabbit? The name stuck. In my family, I am still referred to as "Rab" or "Rabbit. Actually, in Junior High, I was the only girl on boy's track. And in High School, instead of "Loretta" on my cheerleading uniform, it said, "Rab". Back in my early 20's when I was still a distance runner, husband #1 and husband #2 would get so aggravated with me because I would run so far that I couldn't get back. I would be in my own little world and I enjoyed the thought of going to such a distance that there really was no turning back. Even now when I flap my wings to another City, I can be spotted walking in an area 5 miles away from where I started with a map in my back pocket. Yep, which means it's double the mileage to get back. Dang! Last year in one particular City, a friend of mine called and asked where I was at. When I told him, he said, "That's about 5 or 6 miles away. Wrong area Loretta! No, no, no, I need to come get you." Some things never change and old habits are hard to break. (winky wink)

The reason why I do not run anymore is because I have chondro-malacia-patella. Chondro = cartilage, malacia = softening, and patella = kneecap. Basically, I have soft cartilage in my knees. Now here is where I "get to choose" whether I will come up with an excuse NOT TO exercise and adopt a 'poor me and my bad knees' attitude or use the condition TO exercise and cover even more ground as a result. I can yack all I want about how I 'used to be' back in the day or I can live my Life doing what I have always Loved and knowing that I still have the energy and stamina to go the distance, plus I still Love being outdoors. I just have to change from running to walking, from running to cycling, from running to rowing, etc.

I'm a cardio-gal! I need to be pouring with sweat, red-faced, laying in the grass (checking to see if I still have my cute earrings in) and laughing from the experience. I also happen to be the absolute worst roller-blader in the world but that doesn't stop me from loading my roller-blades in my bicycle basket and heading to the park. There is nothing graceful about me on roller-blades but I Love it! Nothing will make me crankier than a lack of movement because believe me, when it is the Truth, it will definitely show up everywhere.

I receive so many e-mails from people about dieting so I've decided to reveal the True weight-loss secret right now . . . TODAY! Stop over-eating! Stop eating food that you know is bad for you! Stop living a lethargic, lazy and sedentary Lifestyle! Get your rear-end moving. Folks, it always boils down to diet and exercise. There is no way around it. It is a Lifestyle choice that you make. This obsession with food to fill a lonely soul, coupled with a lack of movement, has made the adult population look like a herd of buffalo, much less the children looking like miniature buffalo. How the heck can this be justified? How is this okay? Oh, I have a lot to say directly to any parent who allows their children to become over-weight. My blood boils just thinking about it and they usually have an excuse because it can't be their fault. (insert a hefty dose of sarcasm)

The number of diseases, illnesses, syndromes, conditions, aches and pains that can all be healed with proper nutrition and exercise is unfathomable. There is no magic pill. Hold up your clothes folks and take a really Good look at the size of that garment. That size will not lie to you . . maybe you will lie to you but the garment won't! OUCHY! I rarely worry about how much I weigh because I am such a densely packed individual that I always weigh more than the charts say for my 5'8" frame. I concern myself strictly with the number on the back of my pants and I refuse to buy a bigger size. I just won't do it! I may look ridiculous squeezed into my pants until I get the weight off but there is no way on earth I will buy a bigger size. NO WAY!

Folks, if there is something that you enjoy doing that involves movement, then you have to find out what that is. It is vital to your happiness and livelihood. It could be square dancing, it could be rowing, it could be a treadmill, it could be a mini-trampoline (I have one of those and I Love it), it could be walking, it could be shooting hoops in the park or driveway . . but you absolutely have to move your body. A lack of movement will guarantee your place in an ugly future. Make a list of all the things you have enjoyed in the past and consider bringing them back into your Life for a repeat performance. Naturally, you should check with your physician before implementing any changes in your exercise or lifestyle habits, especially if you are on medication or currently under a doctor's care.

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This morning while doing my usual a.m. yoga postures ('Sun Salutes' for all you yoga-holics out there), I was in 'Downward Facing Dog' posture aka Adho Muka Svanasana, when I just started cracking up in laughter. I honestly get a kick out of being me. Keeping my hands and heels completely flat on the floor postured in a perfect "V" is quite a stretch, believe me! Yoga is Hindu and is defined as an experience of contemplation to effect the human soul with the Supreme Being (God).

I can tell you straight up that I do Yoga because of the way it makes me feel and not necessarily the way it is supposed to be done, which is in a quiet hushed mode. Twangy music in the background is just not for me and it makes it difficult for me to connect in the way that Yoga is meant to be experienced if I don't like the music. So there I was in 'Downward Facing Dog' listening to "Don't Fear the Reaper," by Blue Oyster Cult. Yeah, if my former Yoga instructor only knew that I crank up rock n' roll tunes when I'm 'Yoganout' she would have a 'Yogattack!' Well if I can't concentrate during Hindu twangy music but I can concentrate during a "rock n' roll classic" that is about spiritual rebirth, transformation, the beyond and having no fear . . then that is what I'm going to do. Heck, the song was written by lead guitarist Donald Roeser, who is also known as Buck Dharma. Dharma was very clear about his inspiration for this song and what the song meant when he wrote it, contrary to popular fearful belief. Therefore, "Don't Fear The Reaper" is my usual song of choice early in the morning when I'm 'Yoganout'. I want to start my day off with a bang, no fear and all out ram-jammin'.

My point? Folks, just live your Life and go nuts having fun with it. If you are living your Life for appearances sake and doing things that do not even resonate with your spirit, what the heck are you doing!?! If you are living your Life with the approach and attitude of "what others will think," what the heck are you thinking!?!?

Believe me, everyone is in their own little world trying to figure out their own dang Life and they are not sitting around contemplating your Life. Yeah, that statement really is as self-absorbed as it sounds. Live your Life folks and throw out that 'for appearances sake' load of bull. If you are into living a Life 'for appearances sake' then who do you think is really the one carrying a load of bull. OUCHY! OUCH! OUCH!

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SIDE NOTE -- I did post a recent picture of my 'gypsy roaming theatrical parents' on the Native American index page. It is a picture of the two of them with the Principal Chief, Michell Hicks down in Cherokee, North Carolina (the reservation) where they live. The picture was taken in front of the Tribal Offices.

THE TOP FIVE most viewed pages on this website are: 1) Love, Romance and Compatibility Signs 2) The Muscular System 3) The Female Reproductive System 4) Human Papilloma Virus (HPV aka Genital Warts) and 5) Cervical Cancer (Dysplasia), which is the newest sexually transmitted epidemic. I will be adding a bit more information to the HPV and Cervical Cancer pages today. Even if you have never been diagnosed with either one, you may still be a carrier (having antibodies in your blood), which is something that EVERY woman should know. When I say, "Know your body," I mean know every single thing about it including if you are a carrier, which can easily be found out with a simple blood test.

When it comes to "Love Signs" and figuring out your compatibility with another sign . . . again, you need to know yourself first. Day after day I witness people studying the person they are having problems with or studying the person they are pursuing before they know who they are. Folks, I'm going to have to be blunt here . . there is no relationship on the planet that will work or result in happiness if you do not know yourself first. This is one reason why knowing your own Natal Chart can be incredibly helpful to your relationship happiness.

I happen to be a very emotional gal. "Feeling" my emotions comes incredibly easy to me because I 'choose' to feel them. Good or bad, I want to identify what my feelings mean and take note of what my response symbolizes. If I want bigger, better and more out of Life, then I need to get more out of myself, including what my emotions mean rather than plunking down in denial. By welcoming this ability to "feel" so easily, it also feeds my intuition, which in turn helps you during readings. We might think of an emotional person as being someone who is out of control with their emotions and goes running off a cliff when they get upset. Even though I may be an emotional Cancer Rising, it is my cold Capricorn Moon that sobers me up quickly and helps me regain my wits. I can cry in an instant and snap out of it just as quickly. Now after studying myself for so many years, I have had to get a better handle on these emotions because I could easily appear erratic emotionally to someone else. Further, in a relationship, this is the first thing I have to admit and teach the other person about me. This doesn't make my emotions right, but it does make it easier to communicate with me. An old friend of mine use to always point and say, "Oh look over there!" whenever I would get upset and then next thing you know I was looking over there saying, "What?" then we would fall out laughing because I can be that easily distracted even when I get upset. It truly is a gift. Folks, we have to teach people about us . . how the heck are they suppose to know if we don't teach them? If we do not teach others about us, then we leave them to guess or intrepret who we are, which often ends up in hurt feelings because someone didn't understand us. How ridiculously unfair is that?

As I may have written to you before, one day I asked my daughter Karmen what really upset her about me when she was growing up. I said, "Come on, just let me have it. Give it to me right between the eyes so we can clear it." She said, "Sometimes you would get so mad at me and then next thing you know, you would pop your head into my room and say, 'Where do you want to go eat?' Mom, I was still upset and you were over it!" As we talked about it further, it was the first time I realized that I recover emotionally very quickly, almost instantaneously. While it may be a gift for me, I came to realize it was not so easy for others to recover from my lightning fast emotional switch-a-roo and I became a more understanding person. I worked on the erratic emotional switch so that I could better relate to others. But first, I had to admit the behavior before I could use it more productively and effectively. It is who I am and the emotional switch-a-roo will always be present . . the question is, "How will I use it now that I know how it affects other people?"

Folks, if you are wandering over to the "Love Signs" section of this website under the "Astrology Charts" button, please read the explanation on the index page before you start looking up the compatibility. Scroll down and ready THE ENTIRE PAGE! Your Sun Sign, Rising Sign, Moon, Venus and Mars matter! You would not believe how easy it is to tell who your perfect mate is merely by looking at your planets. And son-of-a-gun if it doesn't happen every time, two people will push a relationship to work that really isn't going to. Here is my suggestion, if you are single, then you are in a perfect position to call forth your perfect mate right now! If you are a female, study your Sun and Mars, plus the 7th house cusp and this will describe your perfect man to a T. If you are a man, study your Moon and Venus and your 7th house cusp and this will describe your perfect woman to a T. I write these things into all of my Natal Charts. When I do readings and describe a person to you, I will show you in your Natal Chart what I already see in your birth date. The birth date is for me, the Natal Chart is for you. Quite honestly, the reason why I use astrology charts is to show you what I already know from your birth date. I want you to be able to see this rather than just relying on what I tell you. It's in your birth date! Those who are unhappy and miserable in a relationship, I guarantee that they are the majority of the people that make up the visitors to the "Love Signs" pages. This is because they are the people with question marks in their head over their relationship. Happy coupled-up people are not questioning their relationship. If you are pursuing a new relationship and understand these rules, then I can see why you are there learning more. That's cool.

Sadly, we humans finally start studying ourselves and our relationship patterns when we find ourselves in trouble. If you have a Natal Chart, I cannot stress how important it is that you "know thyself" first.

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Note - The Moon is in Gemini today, which causes this Gemini to become more wordy than usual. The Gemini Moon is about communication. Just being me right now. (winky wink) P.S. - Your Daily Horoscope is very wordy today.

My daughter Karmen is going to Nursing School and works as a CNA (Certified Nurse's Assistant) in an assisted living facility. Karmen absolutely Loves and completely enjoys the elderly and has been working with the elderly since she was 15 years old, mainly with Alzheimer's and Dementia patients. She truly has a gift in this area like no one I have ever seen where her communication skills with these particular patients is nothing short of amazing. Where many people have become 'comfortably numb' with the elderly, Karmen is 'comfortably feeling' with the elderly. In a public or private setting she knows exactly what to say, ask or do when it comes to an elderly person.

This morning I woke-up hearing another Pink Floyd song, "Comfortably Numb." In fact, last night I went to sleep hearing the words from this song, which is a very odd thing for me. I say this because I fall asleep faster than anyone on the planet. The minute my last toe lifts off the floor, I'm asleep. I don't toss, turn or think about problems; I just go to sleep. After I log my 4 hours, then I'm up again ready to rumble without the need for an alarm clock. What was so odd last night was the first four lines of "Comfortably Numb" kept playing in my head over and over again.

The song was getting louder, then I decided to just open my eyes and listen to the DLG (Download from God). I answered and said, "Yes, I'm here! I'm home." Then the song said again, "Just nod if you can hear me." So I nodded, then laughed so hard thinking, "Some communicating Gemini I am because I wasn't listening and I know the other half of communication involves listening." And here I was talking over the song. Interestingly enough, I have my Mercury (communication) in Cancer (home and family) in my Natal Chart, which is another reason why I deliberately write about relationships within the family in these Daily Messages all the time. I also write about relationships a lot in daily horoscopes. It's my job, I realize it, not to mention that is what my Natal Chart requires me to do with my communication skills. So I do it because it was given to me as a gift.

Just like my daughter Karmen, she also has Mercury (communication) in Cancer (home and family) in her Natal Chart. It just shows up in a different house for her than mine does. Cancer also rules the elderly, especially "the mother". Since Mercury rules the mind she works with the elderly in the area of those who have "mind" diseases. It is what her chart requires her to do. This is not something I taught her, she migrated to it on her own because she couldn't help it. Remember, when it's the Truth, it shows UP everywhere.

When I woke up this morning I heard the same song playing in my head only different words this time.

Folks, when it comes to the art of communication, it is vital that you understand it is a sharing of information. Communication can become defective so quickly and it doesn't work when someone is yelling or screaming. Who would listen to that? I guarantee you, I wouldn't put up with it! You wanna talk? Great . . . "Relax. I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts, can you show me where it hurts?" You would not believe how effective communication can be when you start off with just the basic facts. I'm not talking about rehashing because that doesn't start at the beginning. The stuff that is usually being rehashed came after the problem already began. It is a result of the problem, but that wasn't "the problem" . . . Duh Duh Dunnnnn . . . Go back to the beginning of when it all started. If I ask you what time it is and you build me a clock, that is not effective communication. The basic fact is . . the time!

Years ago I was chatting with a patient one day who was talking so quiet that I could not hear her and she was seated right in front of me across my desk. Further, she would begin saying something and then would quietly say, "Nevermind." I knew her birthdate and I knew exactly who I was talking to. A controlling martyr! I kept asking her to speak up and finally in frustration my cold Capricorn Moon came out for the jugular shot and I said, "Look! I will not communicate with you if it is going to involve pulling teeth. That quiet pitiful voice may control everyone else and cause them to hang on your every word and lean in to hear you, but I will not play that game." Well that got her attention. I'll give you three guesses on how effective she was at hanging on to a relationship with that type of controlling disposition and that style of communication. How attractive would that type of disposition be to you? She had become "comfortably numb".

Folks, if you are in a relationship that has become "comfortably numb" with lousy communication, then I suggest you look at your own style of communication and update your personality. Look at your Natal Chart and see what sign Mercury is in and then use the positive means of that placement. It's awesome and it works! The absolute saddest thing that I have ever witnessed in all the relationship readings I do is when someone refuses to be who they are. As a result they take another person down with them, criticizing the other person for being who they are. Now we have two people coupled-up who refuse to be themselves "together" who are trying to make a relationship work. The result is the relationship turns, "comfortably numb" because neither person is being who they really are . . and there they sit in incommunicato-mode. If you are saying to yourself, "This is not how I am" . . . then change it! Let's see who you are. Hmmmmmmm . . . Are we talking about choice again?

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I have never had a flying dream (that I can remember), but I think I know exactly what flying feels like. I can close my eyes right now, lean back in my chair and feel the euphoria, height and limitless distance right in front of me. Now how far I am willing to fly, even while 'seemingly' grounded here on the planet is entirely up to me. Even while riding my bicycle it is a typical posture for me to throw my arms out like wings, absorb the wind on my face and enjoy the feeling of simulated flight.

When I woke up this morning I heard Pink Floyd's, "Learning To Fly." Before opening my eyes, I let all of my simulated flying adventures roll through my mind like a slideshow as the song played out. I have bungy-jumped, hang-glided, para-sailed and even took flying lessons up until the day it was time for me to solo. At that point in my Life (mid-20s), I wasn't ready for a solo flight simply because I was afraid, so needless to say I did not earn my pilot's license. There's still time. I have also sky-dived, which accounts for my bum shoulder from an ugly, yet comical and twisted landing. It's nothing that 18 holes of golf can't cure to put it back in rotating motion. Jumping out of an airplane all by myself and then hanging out in the sky is overwhelmingly surreal. They, (whoever they are), say the fearless height fascination that I have is an Indian thing. I suppose that could be the case coupled with my Gemini air sign, which also keeps me craving air travel. Oh yes, I do have THE MOST expansive and freedom-Loving planet (Jupiter) in THE MOST freedom-Loving, rebellious and independent sun sign (Aquarius). Not to mention, Aquarius is also an air sign. My freedom cannot be messed with under any circumstances. I was also born during the Week of Freedom. Go figure.

I know this air fascination that I have is not really about simulating flight and the heights at which I will go in order to satisfy my "experiential junkie" curiosity. I honestly see it as a metaphor, which I purposefully apply to all areas of my Life. If I want to experience more then I must go higher. I have to rise above. I have to continually bump up my attitude and personality to a higher level. Folks, the height and distance that you will go in Life is entirely up to you. It's your free will, do with it what you want. Lay down or get up! Metaphorically speaking, do you want learn how to fly or not? That non-solo flight back in my mid-20s symbolized a lot about who I was back then. Now, I fly solo in more ways than one.

I often hear over the phone, "Everytime I get close, then something bad happens." Honestly, I think God's response would be, "Okay sweet child of Mine, you want that? Wonderful, I Love it! That's a mighty big request you have there and you came to The Right Guy. Let's see you handle this first so that I know you are serious and you can handle what you are asking Me to do for you." If you check-out, pull the martyr card and refuse to fly above it all, then that is not God refusing your prayer request, that is YOU refusing your prayer request. If your child couldn't handle the keys to the car, would you give her/him the keys. If I lived my Life with a 'game over' mentality, then this website would not exist. All I know is that no matter what, I have to stay UP and keep flying. When I was without electricity, food and money a couple of years ago and generating only 50 returning visitors a day, I still hauled my beaten down ego and tired body to the coffee shop to jump on the FREE Wi-Fi. Oh you betcha I sat there typing with red and swollen eyes in public wondering, "Why me? WHY?!?" I sat there from 7:00 AM until 9:00 PM and let my fingers "fly." I didn't give a rat about what anyone thought of me. I may have spent a lot of time in the air on a physical level with my "experiential junkie antics", but I was still, just learning to fly. Folks, successful people are not successful because they stay on the ground, they are successful because they stay UP and keep flying. Landing is simply not an option.

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This morning I woke up hearing The Carpenters singing, "It's Going To Take Some Time" and I had this flash of various scenes throughout my Life where one experience took me longer than another experience to move through. I like to refer to myself as many things and one of them is an "Experiential Junkie". Folks, I am addicted to experience and as an addict of an "Experiencial Life," this addiction comes with a lot of feeling. Meaning, I am very extreme and I seek to be as present in the experience as my humanness will allow. So I "get to" feel things emotionally at very deep levels without having to be under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Sometimes the experience feels Good and sometimes it doesn't.

Naturally, as an "Experiential Life" would have it, there were a few times when my "Experiential Journey" was so corrosive and painful that I unconsciously chose to check out and sink into the 'experience' of despair, sorrow and martyrdom. It must be what I needed at the time in order to get me to place that I needed to be, which is where I am right now sharing with you. I often hear through the phone lines these phrases, "Am I ever going to be happy?" . . . "Will someone ever Love me?" . . . "How long am I going to feel this way?" Folks, the honest Truth is your pain and unhappiness will last as long as you choose in order for you to receive the message that the experience was meant to bring. After all, you wouldn't find yourself in that experience if there was not something to learn, gain, apply and possibly teach to others.

When I flipped on the television to catch the morning news before writing to you, the Rozerum ® commerical was on. Rozerum ® is a prescription sleep medication and they have the funniest commercials. The commercials have Abe Lincoln and a beaver always talking to a sleepless man and an astronaunt is always silent in the background. The characters represent the man's dreams and they miss him because he hasn't been getting any sleep and he can't dream about them. So Abe Lincoln and the beaver are talking to the man in his office about him needing to get some sleep and the beaver says to the man, "Really? And doing nothing about it hasn't helped?"

Folks, just like the Rozerum ® commercial; your hopes, dreams and mission in Life miss you. When you check-out of experiencing Life, your hopes and dreams become a distant memory. I know exactly what it is like to check-out of the system and sink like a rock. Believe me, just as the beaver implies, doing nothing about it will not help. My "Experiential Journey" has taught me well through painful experiences when I plunked myself down right in the middle them. And many of these painful experiences, I brought on myself. There are several things that I now know through my "Experiential Junkie Life," . . . I get to choose how long I will feel bad. I get to choose how long I will stay in that situation. I get to choose what I will do about it. I get to choose what my next move will be. I get to choose what I 'really' desire. I get to choose how much time it will take . . this time. It is always my next move.

The bottom line is folks, if it is "going to take some time, this time" . . . then that must be what you need, in order to get you to the place where you need to be. You have choices and it is always your next move. You get to choose how much time you will need this time. It's your move.

I re-updated information on today's daily horoscope, so if you checked today's horoscope yesterday . . then check it again today.

This morning I woke up hearing a medley of songs that kept coming to me one right after the other. One would begin before the other would end. I nearly went out of my mind before I finally figured it out. I make it a point to always lay there in bed with my eyes closed and talk outloud a dream as if I'm telling it to someone else or I will lay there with my eyes closed and sing the song(s) that came to me. This helps me understand the message more clearly. I take my time and talk or sing it all out. Well this morning I woke up to a medley of songs that had "me" in it. That sounds so self-involved but I innately knew this message was not about "me" per se, as much as it was about our own individual 'self.' So I suppose it was a self-involved message for all of us but not meant in the selfish sense.

When you visit my website, I take it seriously that you are looking for answers about 'your' Life. Whether you are having health, financial, career, relationship or spiritual challenges, the entire point of visiting this site is to gain insight about your Life. This is not about my Life, but your Life. When you leave this site I want you to have gained more insight and knowledge than when you arrived. Isn't that the whole point of coming here? Seriously, you are not coming here for me, you are coming here for you. I am more than okay with honesty and if you agree with that statement, then you are on the fast track to really being yourself. Folks, this website is not about "me," it's about YOU. Assume that it is ALL ABOUT YOU! This not meant as a T-shirt wearing selfish statement, "It's all about me." It is meant with a gentle tone in the most pure and honest intention of the statement, "It's all about me." Folks, whether it is Good or bad, assume that it really is all about you and then work on yourself to either use the Good to be bigger, better and more or . . . use the bad to be bigger, better and more. Oh Wow, it really is all about you and it's all Good no matter how you look at it.

So how do you get started assuming it is all about you? My suggestion is to begin your journey on the "Rulerships" page of your sign. You can get there by going to your daily horoscope page. Just beneathe the individual dates at the top, you will see a link below them that says, "Aquarius Rulerships" or "Virgo Rulerships" or "Leo Rulerships" or "Pisces Rulerships," whichever sign you happen to be, then click and GO! Start right there before you even begin focusing on your horoscope.

Folks, this will literally blow your mind when you realize that you are SO YOU! So for me, I read the Gemini Rulerships and then I practice being ME! I play me UP! If I really want to go crazy figuring me out, then I will look at the rulerships pages of the signs where I have a wonderfully aspected planets and of course I play them UP! too. And remember how important your North Node is? My North Node is in Virgo, which is exactly what gives me my perfectionistic, anal-retentive, detailed, methodical, critical, borderline OCD, Type-A personality.

Now who I really am is a Gemini, Virgo, Cancer and Aquarius all rolled into one! I am a Gemini Sun, North Node Virgo, Cancer Rising, Jupiter in Aquarius so I practice being all four of those rulerships! Cool huh?

The best part of it all is that I feel Good just being honest with myself about who I am, including those times when I am Good, bad and ugly. Yep, you even have to own the ugly about yourself before you can change it. The worst damage we can do to ourselves is stifle who we are and worse yet, take someone with us, as in a relationship and stifle them too, just so we can 'seemingly' make ourselves feel better about who we are. What an illusion that is! I see so many people stifling themselves and then forcing the energy on to someone else, which basically says, "I refuse to be me, so you can't be you either." Gees Louise, how self-involved is that? Just typing that sentence makes me feel like I need to open the wind and get some air because that is a suffocating, sad and oppressive statement if I ever typed one.

I cannot stess enough how much this website is about you. It is sooooooo You! I have been designing the information on this website as a puzzle and it is your job to figure you out before you even begin trying to figure out someone else. For Pete's Sake folks, the person you may be trying to figure is probably dazed and confused too . . and you want to spend your time on the planet trying to get to the bottom of who they are? Always assume that it is "all about you" and then look to see how you put yourself in that circumstance. This is deep folks, really deep. Now, how about you run off and look up your rulerships, take some notes on how you can apply more of YOU to your Life and then bring in that North Node that is in your Natal Chart. I wrote a piece about the North Node on your signs rulerships page. By the way, you will see on your rulerships page that I began writing about money for your sign and I WILL complete that TODAY! I'm going over to those pages right now . . . .

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All day today (19th) and tomorrow (20th) the NEW MOON will be in Aries. It's a great thing when the Moon is in Aries OR when it's a NEW MOON in any of the 12 signs. TODAY'S lunar influence is extra-special because the Moon is in Aries and it is also a NEW MOON. When the Moon is in Aries or is a NEW MOON then whatever you begin under this influence has the probability of a much more successful outcome. Since Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, it represents "the beginning."

Being that Aries is THE MOST aggressive and forceful sign of the zodiac, then whatever you choose to 'begin' under this lunar influence, you will probably have an aggressive stick-to-it approach; thereby increasing the likelihood of a positive and much desired outcome. I wrote into your daily horoscope today and tomorrow the exact house that Aries is moving through, so it would be great if you could apply this lunar energy to that particular house, although you do not have to.

I have used the Aries Moon and the NEW MOON separately and together to begin all kinds projects and life experiences over the years. As I have written in a previously daily message, I have also used this lunar influence to begin a new Life for myself, which meant I had to end one chapter in order to begin a new chapter. Yes, at one time I even purposefully chose to end a long-term relationship under the Aries Moon. It was the only way I felt that I would be successful at ending it. Surprisingly, it turned out to be the easiest thing I had ever done. Believe me folks, if you are serious, this lunar influence is an incredible support to have underneath you.

Using me as an example, this lunar influence is moving through the entire population of Gemini's 11th house of groups and masses of people. In my own Natal Chart it is moving through my 10th house of career and public image. Instead of running out and playing all weekend with my crazy friends, I chose to stay planted in my chair working on the website about 22 hours each day preparing for today and tomorrow. (I'm a 4 hour a night sleeper) I went through every single page on this website to correct broken links, change the background color and reorganize every single page to make the site more user friendly. (Remember there are 3000 pages this site.) Not to mention the great awareness that I had last Thursday on how popular this website is globally and in the U.S. As you can see, I am much more motivated to press on and create more on this website. Years ago I was a person who needed personal recognition, affirmation and compliments that I was doing a Good job . . . now, I look at the stats of this website (I need numbers) and that is my confirmation and measuring stick that I am doing a Good job. Further, my entire attitude has shifted since the 'great awareness' last Thursday that I wrote about in my Daily Message titled, Leapin' Lizards Batman!. I'm IN!

Today and tomorrow I will be working non-stop on some unfinished sections of this site. Remember, due to the New Moon in Aries, I have a greater chance of success. Since it is influencing Gemini's 11th house of masses of people and my personal 10th house of career, then the logical thing for me to do is be fiercely aggressive and complete the pages that I began long ago. Folks, read your daily horoscope to see where the New Moon in Aries is in your sign and then couple that with the house that Aries rules in your Natal Chart. When you follow this map of your birth (which is just like a AAA trip-tik), it really does work. It really does!

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Well if you read my Daily Message yesterday called, "Leapin' Lizards Batman!" explaining why I was up all night engaged in my happy cry, then you know that I finally hit the wall last night (meaning I collapsed from tiredness) once I simmered down. But, not before my friend Julie came over and we popped a bottle of champagne in celebration of the new milestone.

As I have written in previously Daily Messages about my friends, we will celebrate nothing in particular or anything in particular. My trademark line when anyone pops a bottle of champage around me is, "MY EYE!" It's a reflexive yell at this point that I can't seem to help. So after the cork bounced off everything and I yelled, "MY EYE!" Julie and I laughed crazily because there we were following the cork ricochet with our eyes wide open. I guess you had to be there.

Speaking of reflexive, just as Julie and I were enjoying our second glass of champagne the alarm on her watch went off. I STOPPED instantly mid-drink and said, "Are we praying for someone?" She giggled and said, "No, that was for something else and I forgot to change it." Then we fell out in joyful laughter because we knew that whoever we were out-of-the-influence, we were the same people under-the-influence. It wasn't so much about the alcohol as much as it was about the reflexive STOP of what we were doing, whatever we were doing, whenever we were doing it, in order to stand in who we are.

The reflexive STOP when either of our alarm's go off generally means we are praying for someone. This happens a lot with Julie and I. We both set our alarms to pray at 3:00 PM and 4:30 PM every single day. No matter what we are doing or where we are at, together or separate, we STOP at 3:00 PM and pray because it is the Holy Hour when Jesus died and we STOP at 4:30 PM to pray the Lord's Prayer in memory of everyone we know who has gone "Home" or anyone else who we have on our personal prayer list. Julie's husband John went "Home" at 4:30 PM which is why we set our alarm to remember him and pray for everyone else at that time.

If you are wondering where I get that 3:00 PM is when Jesus died . . it is because the Bible says that His last breath was on the 9th Jewish hour. The Jewish hours (in His day, I don't know about now) started at 6:00 AM, which puts the 9th Jewish hour at 3:00 PM. This is also why we Catholics have our service on Good Friday at 3:00 PM, which is a very emotional, somber and quiet service. It is the minute of His last breath and we take ourselves to that point emotionally. It is the only day of the year when we do not have a Mass because we put ourselves through the emotions and motions of not yet knowing that He has Risen until Easter Sunday rolls around, which is ON the third day. The Bible doesn't say three days later, it says ON the third day. Friday (Day 1), Saturday (Day 2), Sunday (Day 3).

So here is my reflexive point. When you say that you are going to pray for someone, DO IT! The power of prayer is so great that it is miraculous, comforting, healing and mind-boggling. If you have not yet visited the Guidance Button on this site in the left green column, then go there now. There are prayers, novenas, saints, angels, affirmations and information on meditation for you to use and enjoy! Prayer really does work!

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Folks, I am still (literally) shaking over what I learned last night while working on my website through the Letterman/Leno channel-switching-fest that I go through nightly that put me straight into tears. I literally cried the 'happy cry' all night long. I paced around not knowing what to do next. I mean I just started shaking uncontrollably! Then I would just stand in place shaking, throw my shaking arms up to God and say, "THANK YOU! THANK YOU!" through my happy tears.

Did you know there are about 70 million websites out there? Yeah, I said, "70 Million!" And everyone wants to be in the top 100,000 sites. That may not sound all that great but out of 70 million websites, that would be a kickin' website! In fact, that really is quite a feat! For instance, Yahoo.com is No.1 - MSN.com is No.2 - Google.com is No.3 - YouTube.com is No.4 - and MySpace.com is No.5. Heck, eBay.com is No. 14. You would think eBay.com would have a higher rank. You can only imagine the traffic that these sites generate and the "reach" that they have. So I decided to dig further and see where my website stood. I knew that I was gaining ground but folks, I had no idea how much ground I was covering!

When it first hit me, last summer 2006, about my own websites "reach" I was pursuing an opportunity with a Phoenix-based internet radio company who puts together internet radio shows for "radio personalities" in a variety of professions. When I met with them, they told me what they were going to do for me as far as getting my website 'out there' (increasing my traffic) and then they told me their traffic numbers. Trying to keep a straight face was really tough as I just sat there and took it all in. It sounded great . . if I didn't know anything about websites or how much traffic I was generating! (insert sarcasm) I also know about radio contracts having worked in radio myself. After I let them spill it all, then I came back with my traffic numbers and said, "The only way I would be able to sign a contract with you, is if it is heavily weighted in my favor." And then I gave them my heavily weighted counter-offer.

Folks, seriously not to sound snobbish, pompous or egotistical, I knew they needed me more than I needed them and for that reason the contract needed to heavily favor me. I was not budging! I have been in business for myself since I was 22 years old, so jumping into my All-Business-Capricorn-Moon-Mode comes easily and effortless. Not only was I riding their heels with traffic numbers, it was only ME! They have a multitude of radio personalities to generate traffic and those were their numbers?!?! No thank you! Not to mention, the assistance they were proposing to give me to increase my traffic (before I told them my numbers) was very basic website knowledge. Again, no thank you!

When I flapped my butterfly wings back home, I was telling my son-in-law Larry about the meeting. Larry is an 'idea man'. He is just great about giving ideas. He really should work as a "muse." He puts ideas out there and leaves your brain full and then walks away from you completely unattached to the idea as if he said nothing. That same day I started doing my research on how I could create my own internet radio show using Larry's idea. So on January 1, 2007 in the middle of the night, I uploaded www.drstandleylive.com. Now that website already has regular daily visitors from 45 countries and the traffic keeps building every day. Thank you so much!

So there I was last night digging deeper and deeper into this websites stats and there it was . . I had breached the 200,000 mark of 70 million websites. Remember, from the 2nd paragraph above, everyone wants to be in the top 100,000? That means now I'm between the 100,000 and 200,000 mark. In other words, the lower the number, the higher the reach you have. Instantly I knew from here on out, everything exponentiates on the momentum that I have built thus far. Folks, I just started shaking, crying and saying, "Leapin' Lizards Batman! What! Oh my gosh! Oh my gosh! FATHER! FATHER! Thank you!" So I started digging faster into the reach of other 'seemingly' popular websites from other holistic, health and spiritually motivated sites and the difference was unfathomable. I had surpassed many of these other sites by numbers that I had not even imagined was possible. I knew I was ME! I knew it! Folks, there is no comparison when you are YOU! There is no competition. There just isn't! Now if you heard my radio show on 'competition' dated March 8, 2007 then you know that I do not believe I have any competition because there is only one of me. There is only one of YOU and that means the ball is always in your court. You have no competition! I believe competition to be an illusion.

Now I get it. I really get it. I can now visually see my reach and influence among the masses, which has instantly created a change in me. Folks, I will get my act together and complete some of the other pages that I started. Remember, this site is already 3,000 pages and still growing. I also saw last night that there were a huge number of links to my previous Daily Messages from 2006 out there in cyberland. So I put them back up under the Daily Messages button and I will link any astrology topics to them when necessary. I realized taking those pages off would create "404 error page not found" when someone finds me through a search engine.

I'm wow'd and I'm grateful. Thank you all so much for sharing this site with others. I will do better for you because now I get it. I'm more motivated than ever to be early and on time with my updates. Wow, do I get it. The DLGs (Downloads from God) are coming in right and left that I will soon unleash on you. (winky wink)

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After reading the Daily Message yesterday on "Mistaken Identity" a long-time radio show listener and website visitor (Fritz) e-mailed me and said, ". . . perhaps you could write a Daily Message about wanting to be someone else." He also thought that maybe my response to the Federal agents put me on their "wise gal list."

Folks, I guarantee you that I have never wanted to be anyone else but me. It could be that being the fourth of six silly theatrical children made me this way. There are three girls, three boys and I am the youngest girl. Along my spiritual progression path at one time or another I have not been all that jazzed with my character, body, choices in Life or personality, nor have I been all that jazzed with my "givens". In other words, what was I "given" to deal with at birth that I cannot change. Duh Duh Dunnnnn . . . Givens!

In other words, here is what you were given, now how are you going to handle it? There are some "givens" that were assigned to you at birth (not just family) that would manifest later in Life in order for you to learn and grow along your spiritual progression path. Gees, the thought of that just blows my mind and excites me. What a fantastic challenge along my spiritual progression path. That means that the ball is ALWAYS in my court. Hallelujah! Why would I even dream about wanting to be someone else who may not think like me? Further, why would I even dream about wanting to be someone else who refuses to look at their own "givens"? I know me very well, which also involves 'identifying' the Good, the bad and the ugly about myself. OUCHY! OUCH!

When I wrote the Daily Message on Friday titled, "Relationships With Formers" it was really about how I choose to respond to Life, when Life happens, including relationships with former spouses. It was not about bonding with you over woundology so we can sit and compare our scar tissue to see who had the deepest cut and who shed the most blood. I will not bond with anyone over scar tissue but I will bond with you over how you handled it. What happened was a "given" . . now what are you going to do with it? I like the way I responded to my "givens" even when the "givens" turned out differently than I had intended. Granted, I still could have done better in order to get to the place that I needed to be but it is what it is. I 'get to' choose. As I always say, "We are all just stumbling, tripping and slobbering all over ourselves just trying to get it all right and get to the place that we need to be." Cut yourself and others some slack for Goodness sake!

If there is one thing I have always known and that is I 'get to' have control over me. Me! I Love the thought of that. I do not have control over anyone else, nor do I want it, but I 'get to' have control over me. Actually, there are times when I do not exhibit any self-control and that shows up in my Life too and I 'get to' deal with that. And if someone makes a choice that impacts, detours or injures my spirit, then I 'get to' choose something different. I 'get to' choose my response. My choice is to go around and glide right past it as if I just drove around a pothole in the road. I do not have to choose the drama. At the same time I will be holding my lesson in my back pocket so that I can pull it out and use the information in my next experience at a moment's notice. I may be in tears during my glide but I am going to glide around it rather than drive straight into a hole. Oh those self-inflicted wounds! I do not 'have to' choose anything folks . . I 'get to' choose anything. I will always choose the more peaceful path of existence. It is a 'get to' folks. That just excites the heck out of me. I Love the gift of 'free will.' Even in my most injured and sorrowful tears I can still shout past the silver of the Moon straight up to God and say, "Alrighty then! Since nothing is for our lowest bad and it is all for our Highest Good, then let's go! This must be Good." I 'get to' choose my response, actions and reactions . . and by golly I want them to feel Good, so count me IN the Game of Life!

So, do I ever want to be someone else? Absolutely not! I know my issues very well and I know what I need to do about them. I know, I know, I know! Folks, your "personal identity" is just as the phrase implies. It is "personal". It is just you, with your "givens" and no one elses. It's just so cool when you think about it because there is only one of you on the planet. You 'get to' create YOU into someone really awesome using your "givens" to make you stronger, happier and better. Why would anyone deliberately choose a "given" to make them weaker? That doesn't even make sense. If that is you, then KNOCK IT OFF right now! You are quite capable of acting and reacting better than you are choosing to your woes. I say, "Since there is only one of YOU, then make it a Good one." And when it comes to relationships, probably nothing else will teach you more about who you were, who you are now and who you can become more than your familial relationship ties or "Relationships With Formers."

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I'M FLAPPIN' THOSE WINGS AGAIN FOLKS! Today I was reminded of a scene that played out about 15 years ago as I was heading back to St. Louis from somewhere out West. We had a 20 minute stop in Oklahoma City to let some passengers off the plane and pick up others when all of the sudden everything turned very serious and very "Official."

Before any of the passengers were allowed to deplane, two plain-clothed federal agents came aboard and started eyeing every single passenger row by row. I was seated in the emergency door row just over the wing. That's my favorite seat. Believe me, I am the person you want seated in that row in case of an emergency. Next to me sat a woman who had long black straight hair, a darker complexion much like myself and who was probably around my age.

As the two federal agents drew nearer, we caught their eye and they caught ours. Moving a bit more quickly with a serious look on their face, they both stopped in front of us and one of the agents firmly said, "Ola' GREEN CARD Por Favor."

I said, "Hah-noh i-tse. American Express i-tse u-ha. Zah-lah-gee gah-yoh-tli goh-lee-gah hah-noh Espanol. Kee-lohsk hee-yoh-hah."

Both men looked at me as if I had three eyes. Then I interpreted for them in English what I had just said, "The only green card I have is American Express. Don't assume I speak Spanish and I won't assume you speak Cherokee. Who are you looking for?" The lady next to me fell out laughing along with the other passengers who were seated nearby.

Without cracking a smile, the federal agents apologized and headed further back on the plane and left with two women about the same age as myself and the woman next to me. They were speaking to them in Spanish as they led them off the plane. I said to the woman next to me, "Are those cards really green?"

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Before I strap on my butterfly wings tomorrow and fly off into the sunset again for a few days, I want to leave you with a few gentle reminders.

l) My phone number is always posted at the top of this website in the top light blue box. That phone number is attached to a Blackberry handheld device and goes wherever I go along with all your e-mails. That is why it is so easy for me to connect and respond so quickly to you no matter where I am on the planet. Remember, I am a Gemini and the master communicator and gadget guru of the zodiac. Since the work that I do with you is very sensitive and personal, I answer my own phone. No one else will answer my phone. As I always say, "If I answer the phone, you have not interrupted me. If I do not answer, leave your name and phone number and I will return your call." Monday through Friday I return ALL phone calls within minutes or hours but always within 24 hours. Hey, I'm a Type A personality! If you live outside the U.S., then you will have to call me back. Please note that the phone line is closed on Saturday and Sunday. Even so, feel free to leave a message on the weekends. If I detect even the tiniest sense of urgency or sorrow in that phone call, which does happen, I will call you back on the weekend. I understand, Life happens! Boy oh' boy do I understand. Otherwise I will wait until Monday.

2) When I began this website, I had not thought it completely through that the internet was a 24/7, 365 a day open operation. The internet just doesn't close. So I adapted with my traveling office and quickly became familiar with all time zones across the world. As a result, I have noticed that there are many popular astrology websites out there that operate from a time zone that may be "your tomorrow," which can really throw off an interpretation by a day. This is exactly why I always post the times of the Void of Course Moon in your daily horoscopes and planetary shifts under the monthly horoscope in Eastern time so you can adjust your mental clock. Most people know how many hours to add or subtract in relation to Eastern time. I am actually located in Central time here in St. Louis, Missouri but I operate the website as if I were in Eastern time.

3) As far as any products or services ordered from this website, everything runs the same as if I was in St. Louis sitting at my desk. My office is really my mega-mondo-ninja-commando laptop, my Blackberry is for you and my personal cell phone is for family and friends. All Natal Charts are always e-mailed within 24 hours (usually the same day) because I do like to run my eyeballs all over them and write a personal letter to you on specific items that I find in your Natal Chart. All Feng Shui products, my book, "And Who Are You?" and the Tsalagi Bath Salts are also USPS or UPS mailed within 24 hours. All workbooks for the TYS e-Course students are e-mailed by me the same day.

Just for your FYI, I 'do not' provide automatic downloads for my e-book "And Who Are You?" or the TYS e-Course workbooks at the time of purchase. Therefore, I choose to send these downloads to you myself once I receive your order. I prefer to have a short 15 minute conversation with all TYS e-Course students before beginning the program. I am a personal service type of gal, so I'll be your personal cheering section as you continue your practice of being YOU!

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GREETINGS FROM ST. LOUIS, MISSOURI! Typically when I arrive back in St. Louis from a trip, my daughter Karmen or Larry (her husband) will pick me up from the airport, we all go out to dinner and then I spend the rest of the evening playing with Big Tree (my grandson) until I get both of us in trouble. Hey, it happens! Then I spend the night and Karmen runs me home before she goes to school (she is in Nursing School).

After we dropped Big Tree off at school we dived into one of our ethereal in-your-face conversations. If you watch the Gilmore Girls, then you know the kind of mother-daughter fast paced banter that Karmen and I live and enjoy. Karmen has been after me to take swimming lessons since she was a 3rd grader. The fact that I do not fear the water at all, yet can't swim bothers her to no end. It drives her nuts! She's says I'm like a 2 year-old with no fear getting ready jump off the ledge into the deep water without a life jacket, yet at the same time too afraid to take swimming lessons. I looked at her and said, "You are becoming more like your daddy every single day." She said, "Thank you!"

My point is not about the swimming lessons that I refuse to take. My point is about the comment I made about her daddy and her response to it. When I make any comment about Karmen's daddy, she should ABSOLUTELY and without hesitation or reservation take it as a compliment. This is a man that I use to Love and who I chose to be my daughter's daddy. I wouldn't even think about invalidating her DNA by saying anything ugly about him. Children, no matter what age they are have a way of turning ugly comments that a parent makes about the other parent into, "Then I must be like that too." My little Leo cubbie will be 26 years old this July and believe me, the last thing that I will ever do is bad mouth her daddy. Whatever issues we had, are not her issues. Further, I don't believe the phrase, "I can say something bad about him but you can't." That is a load of bull and certainly creates a very ugly character.

Children have an uncanny way of figuring out their parents without our help. Think about the relationship you have or don't have with your parents and all the issues that come with it. There isn't one person on the planet who will escape the gift of having issues with a parent. And it is a gift folks, you just have to look for the gift. Again, our children do not need our help figuring out who we are nor do we need to purposefully add to the issues they are already going to have with us.

Every so often I see my first husband at family functions (weddings, birthday parties) or at a family crisis (funerals, hospital visits). As many of you know from reading the main Native American page, my grandson Big Tree is an identical twin and his brother (Nick) did not survive birth. When my friend John who was Karmen's doctor came out to get us, my former husband and I went back to see Karmen, together. We walked down that long hall side by side, together. His mom and dad were there and so were mine. We were all there, the two of us, both our parents, our daughter, her husband and both of the boys. In the waiting room were our siblings and their spouses. There was not one ounce of animosity between us and we could co-exist together even if we were not "together". What's done is done. We Love our daughter more than we ever Loved each other, which is more than enough to make certain that her DNA and her identity is confirmed no matter what our relationship might look like. Karmen was 'on purpose' and it matters that she knows that. Which reminds me, I do not find it humorous AT ALL to tell children they were an "oops baby" or an "accident." Why would any parent want their child to think they were a "mistake," much less say the words, "You were a mistake". That is messed up! The last time I saw my first husband was at his grandmother's funeral. Karmen and I sat right there with he and his wife (who looks just like Phoebe from the TV show Friends and is as cute as ever). I knew his grandmother since he and I were both in 8th grade together.

As for my second husband . . . I believe the last time I saw him was at his wedding. Oh, you betcha I'm serious. He lives near Atlanta, Georgia now with his wife who is a gorgeous Southern belle with a very sweet spirit. In fact, my daughter was in their wedding and I sat in the first row with his mother and siblings. It is strange but true. His wife handled everything so sweetly as she simply introduced me as, "Karmen's mother." How appropriate and graceful of her. She really is wonderful. Even more strange, husband #1 and I use to even share in holidays with husband #2 while Karmen was growing up. We would just put her on a plane to Georgia and husband #2 was there at the other end with his wife waiting for her. If there was one thing we made certain Karmen knew and that was her parents certainly did Love her even if we no longer Loved each other. It was all okay. Again, it doesn't really matter what happened between me and husband #1 or husband #2. What matters is how we handled it then and how do we handle it now. I don't even call my former husband's ex's. That sounds so negative and I refuse to perceive them as being a negative in my Life. I feel that if I trash them, then who am I? Heck, I picked both of them.

Certainly not everyone will end up with fantastic formers as I have but we worked at it even if we didn't work out as a couple. Karmen was on the planet and that is what mattered. I absolutely believe disconnected couples can co-exist on the planet and it is up to us to make it that way, especially when children are involved, no matter what their age may be. They are still our babies. I purposefully choose to make my Life enjoyable. I purposefully choose to still see the "wonderful" qualities in both men. Not meaning to sugar coat this because it did take some work folks . . after all, they are still former husbands. (hahahaha) We covered a lot of hurt in both relationships, but someone had to do what I call, weeny-out and just bite the bullet. Someone had to maintain the sanity and drive the boat in the direction that it needed to be. I believe the person that weenies-out is actually the stronger person. Believe me, it takes a lot of strength when you really just want to crack 'a former' in the head and make them feel pain and maybe even draw a little blood. (winky wink) Even when a family cannot live together, they can still be on the same page and remain a family. It just may show up differently than we expected. I firmly believe this because I have done it. Relationship splits do not feel Good folks, whether you are single or coupled-up. Dang it feels horrible but it doesn't have to always be that way. When I say that I do not have time to adopt an angry and vindictive nature, I'm serious! I cannot imagine spending my time on the planet with that type of disposition, not to mention angry and vindictive people are fairly easy spot on any given day. You just can't cover up that kind of ugliness with nice clothes, make-up or cologne.

I suppose the reason why I am on a relationship kick this week is because of the presence of Venus in Aries. This current transiting Venus makes us all a bit more self-absorbed about our own Love Life and entertain the thought . . . now what do I do about this relationship?

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GREETINGS FROM FT. MYERS, FLORIDA! About six years ago I dated a man for nearly a year that literally changed my Life. This man was so carefree and yet so rigid at the same time, I could hardly keep up with him. He challenged me to be me on every single level as he called me on all my stuff in the most hilarious ways. If I didn't have such a whacked-out sense of humor, his comebacks would have really hurt. I remember when we first met among mutual friends he said to me, "You're been married twice! What's wrong with you?" I shot back, "You mean you're 50 years old and never been married! What's wrong with you?" We fell out laughing and clicked right away. The dual sarcastic humor and bantering was just too inviting. I had never laughed more in all my Life until I met him. I was enamoured with the way this man lived his Life and what I was learning from him.

Fast forward 10 months and I found myself making excuses and rocking the boat. Actually, I call this behavior, "Throwing wrenches!" I started throwing wrenches left and right into the cogwheels of the relationship. There were times when I was unhappy, yet other times happy because I was laughing so much. It was weird. Even though I was still laughing, I was not enjoying the strict pre-set agenda. His rigidity was just over-the-top! We did this on Wednesday and that on Saturday without fail. I'm a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants type of gal and that precise schedule was just too much. It wasn't me. I could feel myself wanting out because I was compromising who I was to the point of frustration. Then I turned into Miss Crabby Pants and became erratic and argumentative. There 'ya go fella . . take that wrench right between the eyes! I felt trapped in a square box even though I was still laughing and then I'd throw another wrench. Suddenly every Wednesday night, I was busy doing something else.

Next thing you know, I was scheduling something on Saturday night or leaving town for the weekend. If he wanted to see me, then it would have to be another night. Well this was a then 50 year old man who had the same schedule since he could remember. "Don't you know Saturday night is date night!" he said. I had never heard of "date night" until I met him and I still do not follow that line of thinking. If I want to go out, I'll go out whenever I feel like it. Folks, my intuition told me that this relationship was not for me a long time ago and I chose to stay in it. I was doing things that rocked the boat rather than just saying that it wasn't working for me.

Then one night he phoned and told me that he could not take the relationship to the next level. I was shocked and hurt! It was my ego folks. He was clearly upset to the point of tears, but the fact that this man was so true to himself made me even more attracted to him. Now I wanted him but deep down I knew that feeling would only last so long. True to form, he was always himself. I wanted to be that true to myself too. God only knows I hadn't been true to myself during the relationship because I was too busy being manipulative and throwing wrenches rather than stating it wasn't working for me. He didn't have a problem stating what he wanted. I did! My manipulative maneuvers were trying to control him. It could be argued that his rigidity was controlling me but I was the one that agreed to it. He didn't make me do anything. I agreed to compromise who I was over and above what would have been 'normal relationship compromise.' Even though my response on the phone that night was simply, "Okay, I understand," I too was upset, but there was absolutely no way I was going to ask someone to be with me who didn't want to or couldn't for that matter. Further, deep down inside I didn't want to be with him either. He was a strict conformist and I can be the biggest non-conformist (even for a Catholic). Go figure! All you have to do is dig through this website and see the kind of non-conformist Catholic I am. (winky wink) For a long time I made a big hairy deal out of him phoning to end the relationship but I finally understood that it was all he could do. That was my ego talking anyway. He was still being true to himself. It was okay.

Folks, I challenge you to look at all your relationships and honor what your intuition is telling you. I am still so grateful for that relationship because I am so much better at being me. Gees I got some Life experience mileage out of that relationship. It was great! I got exactly what I needed, which was accepting a man for who he is without manipulating him to be with me. If we didn't match, then we didn't match. Simple as that. Certainly there is "normal relationship compromise" but requiring or manipulating another person to change who they innately are for you, is completely unacceptable. That is just like saying, "Don't be who you are, be like this so I can be okay with me." Be yourself folks and above all, trust your instincts.

GREETINGS FROM FT. MYERS, FLORIDA! Water definitely feeds my intuition. It's just like feeding a plant water. If I wrote a Natal Chart for you, then I have written into your chart which element feeds your intuition. (Air, Earth, Fire or Water). Everyone has intuition and it would be hard pressed for me to believe that God blessed everyone on the planet with intuition except you. Call it what you will . . intuition, gut instinct, knowingness, perception, consciousness, awareness, precognition, still small voice, whisper, inkling, feeling, insight, impression, enlightenment, question, investigative or even suspicion. To me, it's all the same thing and we will all choose a word or phrase that resonates with our spirit. Typically I use the phrase, DLG, meaning a "Download from God." Actually this phrase came through an agape-wonderment afternoon that I had with a friend, Gilda (Scorpio) sitting in a coffee shop several years ago.

I see intuition working much like sarcomeres that are found in cardiac and skeletal muscle fibers. Skeletal muscle sounds kind of oxymoron when you think about it but skeletal muscle is muscle tissue that is anchored to bones by way of tendons. Basically, muscle is mainly composed of muscle cells and within the muscle cells are myofibrils and within the myofibrils are sarcomeres. One single muscle cell in your bicep will contain at least 100,000 sarcomeres. So here's the nutshell folks . . any muscle that you do not use every day, you will lose 'at least' 100 sarcomeres from each cell. Yes, I said from "each" cell every day. In other words, "Use it or lose it."

Now the same goes for your intuition . . "Use it or lose it." There are six more popularly recognized ways of describing intuition among "clair" people. And I honestly believe we are all "clair" people. I consider myself highly clear and sensitive as a clairaudient, clairsentient, clairscentient and claircognizant. Note the close spelling between clairsentient and clairscentient. The "c" makes the difference. Some people are clairvoyant, which I have been working on. Interestingly enough, the more I practiced what little clairvoyance I do have, it seems to have heightened my clairscentient ability. I have THE MOST sensitive nose on the planet. I can even tell when someone is "near" me (emotionally not physically) merely by picking up their scent. This includes those presently on the planet and those who have graduated from the planet.

I would have to say that all four of my "clair" abilities are just as strong as the next one. Many times during a reading a person might hear me say an agreeing type statement such as, "Okay, okay." I am merely responding to my clairaudience (Download from God), which to me sounds completely audible. Every day I wake up hearing music, as various tracks play throughout my entire day. This morning I woke up hearing Intuition by Jewell and I have come to trust that what I hear when I wake up will guide my Daily Message. My clairsentient and claircognizant abilities have their own explanations for another day.

Folks, your intuition is something that you need to use and practice. The more you use it, the stronger it gets. No kidding! It is really the same thing as exercising your body and building muscle mass . . it is sarcomere building at the most basic level. My sister Cis and I both agree that an intuitive or psychic can absolutely read themselves. The belief that they cannot is just ridiculous and a cop out for their own personal doubt and fear. At the same time, being as "clair" as I claim to be, I do realize that sometimes my emotions get in my own way when I am intuiting myself, so I call my sister Cis for "clarity". Remember, everyone is "clair" and whether you realize it or not, you will probably find yourself phoning the person in your Life who is THE MOST "clair" when you are going through a challenge.

Many "clairs" will use some sort of a medium to help them explain what it is they are clear on. I happen to use birth dates and not necessarily the Natal Chart when I do readings. The Natal Chart is really for your benefit, not mine, so that I can show you on paper what I have clarity on merely by knowing your birth date. I want you to see why I say, what I say. I feel this would be empowering to you when I can actually show you on paper where the issue is and what you can do about it.

Since the majority of my readings are on relationships and Love, I see a lot of people settling for obligatory Love and not following their intuition on what they know Love to be. Love does not make you feel bad. It just doesn't. That is your first clue. I know, that you know, what Love is and many will settle for what it is not. I also see a lot of people obsessing over someone else and trying to figure out what they are up to. After you figure that out, what's next? What? I know what this looks and feels like first hand, which does not take a whole lot of intuition to figure it out. Talk about agreeing to give up personal power!

Folks, we cannot force someone to Love us. God, the Angels and Archangels cannot make someone Love us or make us Love someone else because each person has been given 'free will.' God will not mess with a human beings 'free will'. God does not create horrible things to happen like 9/11 . . man does that to man because each man has 'free will.' Remember that the next time you pray. Each person gets to choose how and who we will Love. If it matches beautifully, that's awesome! If not, then another year will pass with two people silencing or even killing each other's spirit, which has probably already been taught to the children that 'this is what Love looks like'. That's a sad thought and needs to be corrected.

This is such a fragile subject and requires the eggshell walk but someone has to say it. When I am in a reading with someone and "sense" a new romance coming into their Life who is NOT an obligatory Love but Real Love, it can still be like walking on eggshells. This is because I'm dealing with someone who is still in Love with a person who is not showing Love, being Loving or interested in Love with them. Folks, the more you obsess over someone else, the more it takes away from you gaining clarity on yourself and why you chose THAT person to teach you about you. Why did you choose THAT person? The Truth is THAT person will help you repair your past. Remember, you get to choose your relationship. I cannot stress how important it is for you to 'intuit yourself' before you spend your time trying to 'intuit' another person. If your intuition or suspicion leads you to investigate or question, commonly called a red flag, then you must be prepared to make your choice from that point with that information.

As a gentle reminder, for those of you tangled in relationship dis- or mis- communication, Mercury ends its retrograde (illusional and dilusional) motion at 11:38 PM EST tonight. So when you see other websites say that Mercury goes direct on March 8th (tomorrow), that is because there are only 22 minutes left of this day when it is not retrograde, which makes Mercury retrograde nearly the entire day. Please mentally adjust the time that Mercury goes direct in your area of the world. If you were caught up in the illusion of Mercury Retrograde, then this direct motion should make your communication efforts much better.

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GREETINGS FROM FT. MYERS, FLORIDA! Well it certainly doesn't take long before I strap on my butterfly wings once again and head out of town but not before I get to enjoy an overnight at my daughter Karmen's house and hang out with my grandson "Big Tree". And as long as I make it back in plenty of time for the fish fry at church with the gang on Friday night, I'll just keep flappin'. Sitting in as many airports as I 'get to' it is the perfect opportunity to people watch. Not only do I 'get' the opportunity to communicate with a huge number of people daily through my websites, e-mail and phone, but I get to watch them move along their path as well.

Typically in an airport, I sit and do nothing. I do not feel the need to entertain myself with a book, magazine, my Blackberry, computer or personal phone. I like to sit and just watch. Well, unless of course I get behind on website updates and then need to play catch-up, otherwise I am a people watcher. I am very clear to sit without judgment and take it all in. Sometimes it's easy, other times it's not so easy. Know what I mean jellybean?

I am definitely an eavesdropper. Hey, I'm trying to learn here on the planet and if there is something that will cause me to straighten up and fly right, then I wanna hear it. I am clear enough to know that sometimes my DLGs (Downloads from God) come through me and sometimes I receive them through hearing or seeing other people operate about the planet. Sitting in all these airports, I witness a lot of drama, a lot of attitude and a lot of disconnect. Dang! Could that be me too? After all, there is a huge reflecting mirror out there showing us exactly who we are through other people. So I sit up and pay even closer attention.

Yesterday I had made a comment during my internet radio broadcast, titled, "It Is Never Just About The Car" that kept me thinking about it today. I made the statement, "If you believe things happen for a reason, then don't freak out when something does happen for a reason. Handle it!" I hear this generic line, "I believe things happen for a reason" over and over again in my day in communicating with so many people and yet those words are followed-up with drama, worry, doubt, anxiety and fear. So do you believe things happen for a reason or not folks? Well do you? If you do, then search for the reason. Slow down your energy, watch, look and listen.

Back in my early-30's when I was still modeling and in school, I had a gig in Chicago for a couple of days that I had taken off school so I could work. I ended up missing my flight and had to go on stand-by for the next flight. As I nearly made contact with the seat, an announcement came overhead that they had over-booked and "Passenger Standley needs to de-plane". I just started laughing. What else was I going to do, cry about it? There must be a reason for all of this. So much for my gig in Chicago. Since the airline already had me on board, they felt bad for making me de-plane and gave me a free round-trip ticket that I could use within the next year anywhere in the U.S.A. plus I would be guaranteed on the next flight. Yummy, I'll take it and after a quick phone call, I was still able to make the gig in time. Within a few months after that, an opportunity came to me where I was offered an externship in Neuro-Radiology at none other than the teaching hospital of Harvard University, which is Massachusettes General Hospital. Now take a wild guess on how a single mom, in college with absolutely no extra money made it to Boston to take advantage of that opportunity. Ah . . the ticket! And I even had a place to stay in Cambridge with an old friend. Again, if you really believe that "everything happens for a reason", then don't freak out when something does happen . . . for a reason.

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GREETINGS FROM ST. LOUIS! I had a fantabulous time in Dallas with Christine and Peg. I had not been to Dallas since I was probably five years old when my paternal great-grandfather graduated from the planet, so needless to say, I remembered nothing about Dallas. We went to the North Texas Celtic Festival. For the past couple of years Christine and I have been trekking about to a couple of Celtic Festivals in and around St. Louis, so it was a real treat to attend this monster size celebration. The only thing missing were the Celtic Games that we were used to seeing at the other smaller festivals. Christine and Peg are both Irish and well traveled around Ireland and Scotland so attending a Celtic Festival with both of them made for an awesome history lesson. Do I even need to mention, "Highlander" and "Men in Kilts!" (winky wink)

GREETINGS FROM DALLAS, TEXAS! Yippee! Hooray! I've strapped on my butterfly wings once again and flew off with Christine (Aquarius) to visit our friend Peg (Libra) in Dallas. Me being the Gemini, I always say put the three air signs together in a room (Gemini, Aquarius and Libra) and they will talk about everything and solve nothing. Peg is working in Dallas for two years, which only creates more excitement for this BOLD and crazy group that I run with back in St. Louis because we "get to" visit her. It's a 'get to' folks! An opportunity! Opportunities show up in the most BOLD and wonderful ways, so you know that I will be soaking it all UP like a sponge! The fact that Peg was BOLD enough to move for two years only created more opportunity for the rest of the group. It's all Good! Even though we are three girls who do not mind getting dirty, we also like to dress-up and play the 'girly card'. We BOLDLY enjoy being girls.

The picture below was taken at our friend John Gerwitz' farm (in the yellow jacket who is now walkin' with Jesus). From left to right: Kit, Me (I always wear lipstick and earrings!), Kurt who is John's son, Christine, Peg, John in the yellow slicker and Steve. Second Row: Rachel, Kyle, Greg and Julie who is John's wife.

There are about 10 people from 'this crazy group' missing and lost in the woods and probably 20 dogs not pictured. (winky wink) This picture was taken when we were building a grotto out in the middle of the woods on John's farm for our Blessed Mother. Can you imagine out there in the woods hunting and then you come across this grotto? It's awesome. If you have not yet read about my friend John Gerwitz, just click the link and you can read all about this goof-ball friend of ours who graduated from the planet about a year and a half ago. So if you ever hear me say, "I'M LIVIN' LIKE JOHN GERWITZ" then you know what I'm talking about and what I mean when I say, "A BOLD AND JUICY LIFE!".

I'M BACK FROM ORLANDO, FLORIDA and on my home turf in St. Louis, Missouri (for a day) until tomorrow morning and then I fly off to Dallas with Christine (Aquarius) to meet up with Peg (Libra) for the weekend. We are three girls who can actually find mud in the desert. In other words, we need adult supervision because 'children will definitely be at play'. There is a festival of some sort going on in Dallas and since Peg had to move there for two years for her job, this makes for a great reason to hop a plane and visit. Peg is a hot-shot executive with a Fortune 500 Company, Christine runs a sheet metal/manufacturing business and as you know, I am me, which brings me to the Age of Aquarius and the role of women during this "Age". Personal power and influence comes to each of us in very different ways. Christine always says, "I Love power tools!" and so her professional Life revolves around power in this way. Incidentally, we are all three laptop, phone and Blackberry junkies so this website will be updated throughout the weekend. Well, Christine can never seem to find her phone but that's another story.

Yesterday I made a note about the Age of Aquarius. You know the song . . "When the moon is in the 7th house and Jupiter aligns with Mars . . . " Well folks, there is actually something to that. The Age of Aquarius really has nothing to do with the way the planets line up, it is actually about what will take place during this "Age". Some astrologers will put an "Age" at 2,160 years, some 2,045 years and still others at 2,025. I don't think anyone really knows to date. No matter how you slice it, we really are at the dawning of the "Age of Aquarius". Without going into too much detail about the The Great Year and how long an "Age" lasts, this link will give the best explanation that I have read regarding this topic.

Now for what my astrologer taught me. (May his spirit rest in peace). I use to drive once a week from St. Louis to Nashville to learn everything I could from this humble Leo astrologer. I literally have hundreds of tapes to pour through as I teach you some of the wonderful things that Mr. Seers taught me. And if you are wondering, no he never published a book. So all of those nuggets and goodies that I write into your Natal Charts I learned directly from him. This man studied and practiced astrology for 51 YEARS! Gees Louise he was Good! He is the one who taught me how to watch for patterns.

We would talk about anything and everything on those Thursday night meetings. On one particular night, we talked about the Age of Aquarius. Right now, we are in the Age of Pisces (the sign of the fish, which is also the sign of Christ). Ages run counter-clockwise on the astrological calendar. Mr. Seers put the next age between 2,025 and 2,160 years. Therefore, we are definitely on the cusp of entering the Age of Aquarius. He said that during the Age of Aquarius, we would see an increasingly more powerful influence of women all over the world. We went over our U.S. and global history noting all of the milestones for women over the past 200 years just digging for patterns. We also looked at where women stood today, this was back in 2000. He said as we get closer to the Age of Aquarius there would be a lot of chaos as women begin to take over and become more powerful and independent because they are still learning how to harness this energy. As this transition continues to manifest itself, it will become even more chaotic before it settles.

First, I should probably tell you that although I am an extremely independent, self-sufficient and freedom-enjoying woman, I happen to be very traditional, so I do recognize that men and women are clearly different anatomically, physiologically and biologically. As Rocky Balboa said to Adrian . . and I'm paraphrasing here, "I don't ask you to stop being a woman, so please don't ask me to stop being a man." Since I believe that everything happens for a reason, then there has to be a reason for that and I honor that scientific fact of Life. I am a woman of many things and one of them is, I am also a woman of science. I have never viewed any man or woman as my competition and I won't start now. Because I'm ME! There's only one of ME, so how can there be any competition except with myself. I feel if I'm Good at what I do, then "I" will make it shine through. I do not, will not and have NEVER used being a woman as an excuse for not being or being who I am currently or all I can be in the future. If I want different rules, then I will just build my own ballpark. (winky wink) I'm actually a rebel in disguise.

So here I sit watching women become more powerful and independent in politics, religion, the corporate world, television, radio, the home, as entrepreneurs, musicians, inventors, authors, etc. And it is perfectly normal for a woman to be a single mom no matter how she arrived as such. Heck, I've been a single mom for two decades! While I deliberately intended to create my career, I did not intend to create being a single mom, but I did. If that is what I created, then I will build on it positively, creatively and productively. Even though I find success wonderful no matter what gender you may be, I do see the chaos erupting with women and I pray there is something that I can do about it.

Look around and notice the powerful women who 'use' this energy positively and the powerful women who 'abuse' this energy (Britney and the like). The first thing I saw on TV this morning was Suzy Orman being interviewed by Meredith Viera on the Today Show talking about women and their power with money. And we are still in the midst of marking many 'women firsts'. Most of us will see a woman president in our day (probably not this time around) as women edge closer and closer to the top ranks in government. By the time the Age of Aquarius really hits, most of us will be 'walkin' with the Lord' anyway, but the chaos has already begun. Now we are seeing true to Life movies such as, "Mean Girls", not to mention it is common to see fist fights among young girls on the evening news who are the new bullies. These are the girls who are going to be my age (45) in 2052! And the smelly trash that comes out of young girls and grown women's mouths just shocks the heck out of me, IN PUBLIC! That's suppose to be power?

Whether you are a man or a woman, the nearing Age of Aquarius is even challenging our belief system with books and movies like The DaVinci Code and the question mark of Mary Magdalene's role and the sacred feminine. We will see more and more of this as the Age of Pisces (Christ) comes to a close and the Age of Aquarius begins to strongly influence us. Hey, I am a daily practicing Catholic, which I refuse to keep secret. I'm bold, I'm definitely out there and I'm me, so please understand my intent is not to injure your spirit. I am just being me without hesitation or reservation. I'm also a gal who enjoys going to daily Mass whether attending in person, listening on the radio or watching Mass on television. If you google the 'Coat of Arms' of Pope John Paul II, you will see, the letter M on his coat of arms for Mary, the mother of Jesus, to whom he held a strong devotion. From each Archbishop and Cardinal to the Pope, they all have their own 'Coat of Arms' and this was Pope John Paul II's. Our Blessed Mother and Mary Magdalen are both receiving more attention than ever as our Age of Pisces chain is yanked and disproving Jesus to prove 'either Mary' is of growing interest.

When I first began radio 7 years ago, the first DLG (Download from God) I received about my new role was my expansive influence over millions of people. I am fully aware of my influence with this website, my internet radio website, my myspace website and this particular Daily Message about the Age of Aquarius. I pray that women of all ages can move through this time enjoying their beauty, grace and personal power without having a chip on their shoulder or feeling the need to de-value or crush a man's spirit in the process simply for personal validation. That does not sound very feminine to me. The scorned woman does not sound very feminine to me either. Neither does the vindictive woman. Grow through it ladies, grow through it! I can tell you this, I WILL NEVER EVER 'require' a man to do anything except be every ounce of who he is (let me see it so I know what I'm dealing with) . . just as I will live my Life being every ounce of who I am. When and if 'me' doesn't look or feel Good, then I get to change me, thereby prayerfully impacting others to do the same. If you, as a woman, are as powerful as you think you are, then let's see you use this energy in a bold and wonderfully impacting way. And if you, as a man, are surrounded by strong women or any female for that matter, then your thoughts, opinions and views mean more now that ever because we women certainly still do Love our men, (winky wink) especially if you are strong enough to stand with us. Oh now THAT'S A MAN to this bold Gemini.

AGE OF AQUARIUS

When the moon is in the Seventh House
And Jupiter aligns with Mars
Then peace will guide the planets
And love will steer the stars

This is the dawning of the age of Aquarius
The age of Aquarius
Aquarius!
Aquarius!

Harmony and understanding
Sympathy and trust abounding
No more falsehoods or derisions
Golden living dreams of visions
Mystic crystal revelation
And the mind's true liberation
Aquarius!
Aquarius!

When the moon is in the Seventh House
And Jupiter aligns with Mars
Then peace will guide the planets
And love will steer the stars

This is the dawning of the age of Aquarius
The age of Aquarius
Aquarius!
Aquarius!

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